Middle name/names

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Middle name/names
Mon, 06-13-2011 - 10:04am

When deciding on a mn/names, what is your criteria?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-13-2011 - 1:43pm

I find middle names are usually easier to choose...or, since we use two middle names, usually one is easy to choose.

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Registered: 07-15-2003
Mon, 06-13-2011 - 4:55pm

For me, it's both.

Middles are a little easier because I almost care less about the middle name - the first is the most important. Also, for me, middle names are more likely to be pulled from family (Alice, my mom, Alexander my granddad, Emmett, my dad's middle name) so I don't care what others think or how perfect they are.

On the other hard middles are hard, because I have trouble figuring out what "goes" best with the first I love.


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Registered: 12-09-2008
Mon, 06-13-2011 - 5:16pm
I like to pick the name as a whole. I like family names. I would use the names of grandparents together, and put the ones I like better out front. I might choose a name for middle I wouldn't for first; I might pick out a middle name to go with the first I've chosen (when Hannah was born we had Peter Immanuel picked out, and now I'm not as into Emmanuel/Immanuel at all; with Peter I considered all sorts of things for a middle (with Rebecca), including Nativity, which never would have come up if I weren't trying to choose a middle for Rebecca and due in December.

If I were to suddenly give birth to a healthy baby tomorrow, he or she would be Rebecca May or Benjamin Mark--all family names, but I feel like they work together.

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Tue, 06-14-2011 - 10:43am
Our requirements for middle names are, they have to be pronounceable by most people, and they have to be Hindi (hence the first requirement). Since DH goes by his middle name rather then his Hindi name, we decided to just put the kids Hindi names in the middle name spot. Oh and we have to like them, which is kind of a given, but it is a requirement.

Middle names were fairly easy for all three of mine, in fact I had Sullivan's middle name chosen from when I was pregnant with Eloise, since it would have been her middle name if she had been a boy. It was the easiest part of naming Sullivan. Neither Eloise or Desmond's middle name choices were tough either.

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Thu, 06-16-2011 - 2:24pm
With my first, I chose the middle name that had the nicest sound with his first, and one I loved as well. I ended up with Jory Michael.
With the twins, I had less of a choice because a tradition passed down the boys middle name from one generation to the next. I ended up with Alexander Fredrick. For the girl I again chose another family name and ended up with Haley Patricia (Patrician was maternal grandma's name).
MN's are much easier than firsts for me for the reason that I like to use family names. :o)

~April, Mom to son Jory, 23 and boy/girl twins, Alex and Haley, 11

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Registered: 08-24-2006
Fri, 06-17-2011 - 12:26am
The first name has to be a name that I really like (I'd prefer it be one that I really LOVE but DH hates the names I LOVE lol) - and also one that DH agrees on.

The middle name is a little bit easier. With #1 DH wanted to give her mn after his cousin who passed away so we ended up with Kathleen. Allison was the only name he said "maybe" to so it stuck. I love it because now I have an Allie Kat!

This time around, we've decided that we are probably using my grandmothers name for the nm - Viola. But this will depend on the first name we choose. If the first name that we agree on doesn't flow into Viola we may go with another family name or just choose a name that we like.
Though at the rate we're going we can't agree on ANYTHING and may just use Viola as the first name and then maybe I'll let DH pick out the nm because I don't care as much about that!
- Caroline

* Wife of Eric (July 28, 2007)

* Proud Mommy of Allison Kathleen (April 14, 2007)

* Expecting another BABY GIRL on September 16, 2011

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Registered: 11-05-2010
Mon, 06-20-2011 - 3:47pm
Easier makes it sound like an afterthought, and the middle is certainly not an afterthought, it's the main thought, for me. We have people we want to honor, and the middle spot is perfect for that. I would never use a name I didn't love for the first, but the middle is a place for sentiminal names I wouldnt use otherwise. It's the polite dumping ground for family names, I believe Laura Wattenburg said that, and I couldn't agree more.

I've never given much thought to flow and such between the first and middle, just flow of the first and last, since that is what is used everyday. I don't even know some of my friend's mns. I certainly wouldn't let flow issues stop me from honoring the person I want to honor most. I wouldn't pick someone else to honor simply because the name sounds better.