Would you use a name that

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Would you use a name that
Thu, 07-28-2011 - 10:21am

you knew someone else was considering?

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Thu, 07-28-2011 - 4:04pm

Probably not...I'm terribly possessive about the names I choose, and having someone I even kind of knew consider a certain name would probably knock some of the polish off of it for me.

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Thu, 07-28-2011 - 5:06pm

I'd check with them first, but as long as they were okay with it, I'd use it.

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Fri, 07-29-2011 - 2:02pm
If I heard it from them first, and they wanted to/might want to use it? Not without their permission. Family names are fair game. If every one of my cousins named their daughter Elizabeth, I'd still want to use it, and if I used it first I wouldn't want it to stop anyone else (of course, we could all call them something different with that name).

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Fri, 07-29-2011 - 4:27pm
I likely won't use a name I heard a friend mention as one they liked. If I absolutely adored it, I might ask them if they minded if I used it, but I likely won't use it anyways, but would look towards names along the same vein of style/type to see if there was something else that fit better.

I don't use family names that I think someone else will use. I thought about naming Sullivan, Bennett after my Grandfather Benjamin, but since my brother has already declared if he has a boy he will be naming him Benjamin, I just felt it would be too close.

I was even planning on changing my girl's name for Sullivan if my sister had a girl, because she was going with Eden and calling the baby Edie, and DH and I were strongly considering Genevieve and calling the baby Evie and that just seemed way too closer. Middle names on the other hand I don't really care, though no one in my family would use the middle names we chose since they are Hindi names, and DH is an only child so we don't need to worry there either.

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Fri, 07-29-2011 - 6:59pm
It would really depend on how close I was to the person. If it's someone that I don't know well or a random Facebook friend, I wouldn't feel bad "stealing" the name. I'd also have to really LOVE the name to "steal" it from someone. And also, anyone who knows my DH knows that the name we end up picking will be the only name in the world he could live with!!! LOL

One name that people suggested for this baby was Lilliana or Iliana but our good friends have always said they'd use one of those names if they had a girl. So far they have one son and another baby (gender TBD in Sept) on the way. So no way would we steal those names from them.

As for family names, I typically wouldn't use one in a first name place. We're probably using Viola (my grandma's name) for the middle name of the LO I'm pregnant with now, and I figure if anyone else in the family wants to use it they are welcome!!!
For our first DD we used Kathleen for her middle name for DH's cousin who passed away. We didn't even THINK about the fact that her brother may want to use it if he ever has a daughter.... DH only asked his mom if she thought his aunt would mind us using it.

Actually, my sister had twin girls and they struggled with names and in the end settled on Kailey and Karley. Well, my cousin's wife was due a month or 2 later and that was "their" name - so we have Kailey and Kayley in the family.
- Caroline

* Wife of Eric (July 28, 2007)

* Proud Mommy of Allison Kathleen (April 14, 2007)

* Expecting another BABY GIRL on September 16, 2011

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Thu, 10-06-2011 - 11:52pm

Yes, I would use whatever name I loved best for my child at the time my child was born, regardless of whether anyone else - family, friends, co-workers, whoever - was considering it, regardless of whether they had already used it, regardless of whether it is a family name for me or for anyone else.