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|Fri, 07-30-2010 - 4:56pm|
Not pregnant, just wanted to get some philosophical thoughts on a particular name scenario:
DH and I have been pretty seriously considering adopting, probably internationally and probably from Russia. We're really excited, but the name lover in me is trying to make my peace with the fact that we wouldn't have total free reign on the name front. It is unlikely we would adopt a baby, more likely a toddler or preschooler.
Let's say we adopt a 3-year-old, I've heard of/considered a few possible approaches to the name the child already has:
1. Keep it, maybe choose a middle.
2. Keep it as a middle, but gradually transition from using the old name to using both to using just the new given name.
3. Use a nickname, a sound-alike name or an Anglicized version of the name.
4. Just plain old pick a new name.
What do you think? Is it insulting to a child to try to change his name, gradually or otherwise, or is it a sign of his becoming a member of our family? I am *much* more concerned about making this child feel totally welcome than with getting to choose a name that I love, but would he/she eventually feel left out if his name sounded foreign and out of sync with our bio kids? I can see both sides to this, and wondered what others would think.