I think I'm doomed to Maria

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I think I'm doomed to Maria
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Sat, 07-24-2010 - 10:35pm

Well the "Juliet" conversation went pretty easily - all I have to do is agree to use Maria as the middle name. Yick. First of all, my MIL (Maria) is an overbearing linebacker who would love nothing more than to oust me from my life and install herself as lady of my house. She steamrolls me every chance she gets and of course, my baby's name isn't going to be much different. She announced a few weeks ago that we should name the baby after her. Yay. So I guess if this baby is a girl, I have to go with it. Juliet is my choice, Maria is her name.

Juliet Maria. It's not that terrible, right? Is it bad to cringe every time you say your baby's full name, or will I eventually come around? Ugh.

For anyone who hasn't been following my saga, I'm pretty much at the mercy of my in-laws at every turn in life.




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Sat, 07-24-2010 - 10:52pm
I'd be tempted to spin Maria just to say "well, we named her after you" without exactly doing so...Mariette, Marianne, Mariska, Aria, etc. But I tend to be a bit perverse that way.
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Sat, 07-24-2010 - 11:04pm

No, the name isn't bad.

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Sat, 07-24-2010 - 11:24pm

Hang in there, Jenna. Giving in to this name situation does not mean you are weak, it is evidence of caring about the feelings of your family members in an area that means a lot to them.

 

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Sun, 07-25-2010 - 5:12am

Thank you for all the sweet words, Elle! This decision is a product of a lot of conversation. MIL's full name is Maria Lieslotte. I basically have my pick of Maria, Liesl, Lotte, Lieselotte or Cleo (FIL's pick). To be honest, I can't stand any of that but Maria is neutral enough to the outside world and doesn't clash sound-wise with Juliet. I don't hate MIL by any means and we have our good times. I just don't like being "steamrolled" yet again. But you're right, its for the greater good.

As for Fox, I think I'm in the same boat. He's letting me have it (for now) but I'm going to have to sacrifice on the mn. Fox Cleo? Ugh. That battle hasn't been completely hashed out yet. Good thing I have 29 weeks to think about it!

I'm sure I'll be around here plenty in that time :)




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Sun, 07-25-2010 - 5:16am

Crafty! I tried that a bit, but anything besides Maria just "isn't close enough". Briefly he mulled over Marie, but that's kind of a weighted issue because that's my grandma's fn and my mom's mn. We already named the last baby after that same grandma and my mom is totally the black sheep for various reasons.

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Sun, 07-25-2010 - 5:21am
Ha, I'm a little difficult as well! In my ammunition against Maria I brought up the fact that it means "bitterness" in Hebrew. How has this name thrived in the western world with a meaning like that!?!?



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Sun, 07-25-2010 - 11:46am

Oh, man...that's frustrating. Juliet Maria is pretty enough, but that *is* wrong to cringe every time you say your child's name. Bianca's mn is after your family, correct? It is only fair that this little one would be named in some form after your dh's family. Is his whole family like his mother, or is there somebody that you get along with? Perhaps you could convince dh to name this baby after this person in some form. Even if it's a male, we can help you find a feminine form of the name! Hopefully this person who you do like, your mother in law likes as well, so maybe she couldn't fight a very strong fight against it.

Anyway, hope this helps! Keep us posted!

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Sun, 07-25-2010 - 12:02pm

Sometimes moms and mother-in-laws just don't like to give up control.

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Sun, 07-25-2010 - 12:22pm

It basically has to be after his mother or father. He had a brief consideration of naming the baby after his late uncle Dieter and I tried to get into the great grandparents (maybe there are some treasure troves in there?) but he said that was going back too far. I LOVE his aunt Irene's name, but a) there is already a little Irene in the family and b) his ex-gf's name is Irene too. I actually wouldn't mind that, but he does. His dad has no middle name. Oh, his dad's mom was Athena, but that's my SIL's name.

I tried to feminize "Niko" and the only thing that sounds good is Juliet Nikole, but the "k" in there is annoying, plus Nicole sounds so 80's. He wouldn't be happy anyway, he wants Maria. Boo.

THANK you for all your help. I may try to work some other angle anyway.




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Sun, 07-25-2010 - 12:28pm

Honestly, if I really liked the name I wouldn't mind. I just don't like it. He even has a cousin named Christina who is onery as all get out (mean, some would say) but the name is beautiful, so I told him I'd be open to that. Nope. He doesn't care for his cousin and wouldn't consider that name at all. *sigh*

I may work the great-grandmother angle one more time. Athena was her name, and Athene (ah-THEEN) would sound pretty w/Juliet. Let me get my game face on!




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