Am I Overanxious?

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Registered: 06-12-2003
Am I Overanxious?
Thu, 06-12-2003 - 1:18pm
Hi, I just really want to choose the right name. I have a friend whose parents gave her an outdated name and she has struggled with it all her life. I don't want to do that to my baby. I am checking out the name popularity trends at and I am making sure I choose a name that is rising in popularity. Any other suggestions? Am I blowing this out of proportion? I was thinking about naming the baby after my mom, but it looks like her name is totally headed out (Carla): .


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Thu, 06-12-2003 - 1:40pm
I don't think that you are blowing this out of's a very important decision that will affect how people perceive your child for his/her entire life.

I do think it's interesting that you are looking for a more popular name, when so many people are trying to avoid them. I agree that I wouldn't want something dated, weird, etc. that is going to be an embarassment to my child.

Have you considered Carly, Cara, Caroline, Carissa, etc. as a way to honor your mother while also updating her name?



Monya, mom of Garrett and Olivia

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Fri, 06-13-2003 - 1:02am

how about the name carlene/karlene? after your mom
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Fri, 06-13-2003 - 3:43am
Just my opinion but, I have a feeling Carla won't be so out of date. Think of all the other popular names that end in La.
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Fri, 06-13-2003 - 8:04am
What about Carly?
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Fri, 06-13-2003 - 10:24am
I love Carla -- I think it's a beautiful name!! Carly does sound a bit more modern and I love it too. I think Carla is a bit more classic -- it just depends which way you want to go. And for me, I'd much rather my child have a classic name than a trendy name. I'd probably pick Carla over any of the trendy names in the top 10 or even 20 most popular. (Of course there are some classic names in the top 20 like Elizabeth and Sarah, but for me I'd rather pick a less popular one).

I don't know what your friend's name is, but I certainly don't think Carla is in what I think of as the "outdated" names category like maybe Nancy, Alice, or Mary.



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Registered: 04-30-2003
Fri, 06-13-2003 - 11:18am
I agree. I like the name Carla a lot, and I think, if you mean to honour your mother, then why change the name around? Give her the name Carla, it's a beautiful name and those "trend reports" aren't exactly all-knowing, nor always correct.
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Mon, 06-16-2003 - 6:36pm
That street runs two ways...I'm an Amy born in the ERA of Amys. I went to a SMALL school. There were 3 Amys in our graduating class of less than 50. There were 6 more in the High School (total of maybe 150-200 students) We all wished we at LEAST had a different spelling. We joked we would mind being the Aimee w/the 'two e's' or the Amie w/the 'i' Anything to make us more unique!

Then I married a Michael...enough said!

We chose more unique names (family names w/a 'tweak') for our DDs just because we had such COMMON names! Our oldest DDs are in school now and dearly LOVE that they are the only ones in the school system w/their names. (Currently attending the same SMALL school DH and I graduated from)

Most of my friends that DID have unique names LOVED them also. However, I did have one friend, Jayci (pronounced like the initials J.C.) who hated her name. I've found it interesting that the name (different spellings) has/is gaining a bit of popularity in our area! She named her children Katelyn (age 12) and Kayleigh (age 10)

Personally, I'd vote honoring your mother w/her exact name or a variation of her name!

Good luck!

Amy~mother of Patrisha Louise, Isabella Ruth & Lilybet Rhian; ages 11, 7 & 2 weeks

Trisha, Issy & Lily

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Thu, 06-19-2003 - 12:20am
I wouldn't really worry about nameing your baby to go with what is trendy. You have no idea how much it sucks to be in a classroom of 26 in which 4 other children might share your name with you. Not only the confusion of it but just how you feel like your parents went more with what was IN then anything else. I really think that you shouldn't do something very outrageous but at the same time keep it unique. You aren't overanxious you just know that a name sticks with a child forever.
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Thu, 06-19-2003 - 9:11am
i think it's very impt to give a name that is forever, and not easy to tease! but... if you want a name that will be "safe" and wonderful always, you should pick a classic! not a name that is trendy now! think about it. however, having said that... Carly is a new, modern, adorable variation of names like Carla, but yet it is still "mainstream" enough that it won't be weird or silly when she grows up, when she applies to grad school for nuclear physics, etc.! so that might be an idea. other classics that still sound fun, fresh and forever are:

Elizabeth -- you could use cute nicknames all her life then when she grows up, she could be Liz or Elizabeth. NNs include: lizzie, eliza, bethie

Caroline -- nn's such as Lini, Carol, or even Carly could make this more youthful, but she'd have a name no one could ever make fun of, like Elizabeth.

Abigail-- see above, and modern, fun nn's are Abby, Abbi, Bebe

Alexandra -- avoid the "today trendiness" of Alexis, Alexa (which sound fake to me anyway...) and use the classic, stunning long version! You can still use the same nn's: Lexy, Allie, Alex, Sandi...

Holly -- just so simple, pretty and forever!

Sarah, or the more modern Sari, Sara


Grace -- how could anyone ever make fun of this name?


Victoria -- Vicki, Tori

Olivia -- Livvie






Julia... all these from that list are names that cannot lose!!! I hear them a lot today, but they are also names I grew up with, so they are forever popular.


PS-- some folks have difft opinions on this, but i think it's very impt to give a name that has nicknames, because most kids go through a stage where they hate their name, and it's fun to pick a cool nn or spell it "cool" (or else they try to use their middle names!)

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Registered: 06-17-2003
Thu, 06-19-2003 - 9:27am
Thankfully when I went to school, there weren't too many children with my name. There were, however many Kelly, Jennifer, Melissa and Michelle names that caused much confusion. Those were the popular names being used when we were born. So many of them tried to make cutsie names out of them just so they would each be different from the other - Mitzi, Missy, Missi, Jen, Jenni, Kel, etc. Go with what you want your child to be named, not what everyone else is naming their child.

What about Charlene (Char/Charly/Charlie)?