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| Tue, 10-24-2006 - 12:03am |
Family names
- I use family names of those deceased
- I use family names of those living
- Both of the above
- Other, and comments
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We named our first son after both grandfathers: John (my dad) Richard (fil). Both were living at the time, my dad has since passed. Our second has dh's name for his middle name (he is living!) and my dd is named for my aunt Anna and my gm Catherine, both deceased.
Mary
I don't use family names.
Terra.
TTC#3
I voted for deceased only. That's not really a hard an fast rule for me, and certainly not a moral/ethical thing. It just works out that way because I'm not very close to my living family members. Also my family is VERY competitive, and if I named my child after a living relative, there would be a lot of bitterness over why I honored that person and not someone else.
But if my significant other wanted to honor a living relative, I would certainly consider it. Or if I repaired my bond to certain family members, I might consider it. I do have Fitzgerald on my list, which is a variation of a family name shared by multiple living members. I'm not quite comfortable with the idea of using it for exactly that reason, but it's a possibility.
Our older DD's middle name is Joy, sorta after DH's aunt, who is still living. He said he wasn't necessarily trying to honor her, but it's b/c of her that he has always loved the name. She has no children of her own, so I thought the name was a great choice, too.
Our younger DD's middle name is May -- my deceased grandmother's mn. Her fn is Julianna, which we found in my family tree as my great-grandmother's mn (spelled Juliana). So, her mn is in honor of my grandmother, but I never even knew my great-grandmother.
If we have another child, we are considering names of both living and deceased relatives. I like to include a family name somewhere in the name, but overall sound/flow are important, too, so that's usually the deciding factor on which of the names we end up using.
Stephanie, mom to Megan Joy (nn Meg) and Julianna May (nn Annie)