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How did you decide?
| Mon, 01-29-2007 - 3:31pm |
Since me and DH are having such an issue with the name thing, I'm wondering how everybody else decides on a name if you're having trouble? Did one of you have to settle on a name and not pick one you loved? Did you just keep searching until you found the perfect name? How long did it take? Please share your story!
Anjie



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I hate picking names with my DH. It's a major stressor. Both our naming styles are completely different so it becomes a battle of wills. I hate all his names and he hates all of mine. With my DD DH ended up winning because I had a nasty labour and he was the one to call everyone and just told them she was named the name he wanted - I didn't want to change it after recieving so many cards with that name written on it but I wish I had now because I still hate the name and still think about having it legally changed.
Now I am preg with No 2 and no way is he getting a say this time because of what he did last time. He won't compromise - I've tried that - so this time we are going with whatever I choose (he doesn't know it yet).
I supoose it all depends on the personality of your husband and whether he is prepared to compromise or not as to how you end up choosing the name.
Mama to Anna 06/05/06 and James 09/11/07
(1) the children have his last name but I get to choose their first names;
(2) the children have my last name but he gets to choose their first names; or
(3) the children have a hyphenated last name, and we sit down together and choose the first names from a baby-name book, lists of favorite names, etc. He chose option (1).
I loved the name "India". Had for many years. It just stood out for me and I felt that was to be the name of my Daughter. I had many protests...Husband, Mother-in-law, Sister and others but I stuck to my guns.
My husband liked Brooke and so did I... so we named her "India Brooke".
Now I think everybody likes it and it fits her so well.
I did find that most names just werent good enough for my little one, but a name will stick out for you...it will just sound right!
If we have a son..."John-Christopher" is sounding right to me. Never thought I would name my son John but I love the sound of the two names together and John's usually do well in life.
I have noticed alot of people go with real cutesy names like Emily and Bella.
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We really struggled with DD#2. He had two favorite names that I thought were just okay, and I had 2-3 favorite names that he hated. We went over lists and lists of names, but couldn't agree on anything.
Finally, I started looking at family trees and found that my great-grandmother's mn was Juliana. I tossed it out one night. He had liked Julie in the past, and I had liked Anna (but couldn't use just Anna b/c of DH's cousin even though we rarely see her). He thought about and decided that he liked it, but only spelled Julianna and pronounced ann-uh (not ah-nuh). I chose the nn Annie (not Julie), and it was a true compromise.
It was definitely not a name I loved initially, but I liked it a lot, and it grew on me. I think DH felt the same way. We also liked that DD had several nn options in addition to a beautiful given name. We alternate calling her Annie and Julianna, and DH occasionally calls her Julie. ;-)
I wouldn't just give in to one of your DH's first loves unless you come around to loving it, too. I'd keep looking for something you can both truly agree on.
Good luck!
Stephanie, mom to Megan Joy (nn Meg), Julianna May (nn Annie), and #3 edd 8/30/07
I only settled for the boy's name that was not my #1 pick. I had SUCH a strong feeling that I was having a girl and my DH had such a strong opinion about the boy's name that I let him "win". We went into the delivery room with 2 names. Claire Elise was our favourite, even though I wiffle-waffled throughout my pregnancy (I blame it on the hormones!), but we went into the delivery room open to switching the first and middle to make it Elise Claire. My big worry about Elise was that nobody would pronounce it right because I wanted to pronounce it the French way with the s saying z. I found it so hard to decide and I didn't want to feel penned in so having that option helped me. It was a torturous process though!
Steph
Mama to Claire Elise
Hoping for #2 in 2007-2008
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