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| Sun, 10-29-2006 - 2:04pm |
I know that I've asked this before, but a few months have gone by - and could use your opinion.
| Sun, 10-29-2006 - 2:04pm |
I know that I've asked this before, but a few months have gone by - and could use your opinion.
It's not easy to give advice about this, because it's such a personal decision. I admit I'm very biased. I probably won't be able to try for my second until I'm 37...which will give me a 3 year old at age 40.
I think Gabriela will be fine without a younger sibling, so I wouldn't worry about that. I'm one of a trio, and in my experience the youngest is never lacking in attention. The real issue is how badly you and your DH want another baby. "Baby fever" is hard to cure. If you don't try now, you may find yourself at 40 wishing you had tried when you were 36/37. On the other hand, if you really feel your family is complete as is, then the future won't bring you any regrets.
I'm not helpful at all, am I? If you think you'd be happy either way, but just can't decide, you could always leave it up to fate. Play baby roulette--the 'not trying, but not preventing' thing--for 3 months and see what happens.
Hugs,
Allie
I don't have kids, so I guess I'm not too qualified here! But your post reminded me of a conversation my family had recently. I'm the middle of 3 girls, and my mom mentioned for the first time that she sometimes wishes she'd had another child, boy or girl. It was random, and my dad was surprised and felt kinda bad because I guess they'd never discussed it much. But of course it may be the empty-nest talking b/c my little sister just moved out into her own place!
I don't think it would be bad at all to have a 3-year-old at 40, except that you'll be at least 55 by the time he/she was out of the house! But since it would be your youngest that shouldn't keep you from having another if you really want. Like pp, I am probably no help at all! But I thought I'd toss those things out for you to think about. Good luck! BTW, your girls are beautiful!
Liz
Thanks belle_petite for the siggy!
AJ, enjoying life with C.
As a pp mentioned, many people regret not having one more child, but you never (or very, very rarely LOL) hear someone say they regret having one. Do you think you might regret not having a fourth? If so, you may have your answer. ;)
FWIW, having a three-year-old at age 40 isn't all that different from having a five- or six-year-old (or however old Gabriella would be then LOL), KWIM? You just take things in stride.
~Kelli
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I am 39 and just had a baby girl...my 4th child.
I feel a little "old" but I still got a few years left on me...
I might even have more!
go for it!