who's last name???? HELP!!!!
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who's last name???? HELP!!!!
| Sat, 09-09-2006 - 1:30pm |
Here is my next problem.....My bf and I are having a baby but have no plans to marry. We are discussing which last name to use....his or mine??? I would love your opinions on this! Thanks:)

No plans to marry = your last name, IMO.
It's different if you're planning on getting married soon after the baby's born, but if not, you never know what could happen. If you don't end up together -- and especially if your bf ends up being an absent father -- you may want your child to share you ln. Also, if you don't end up staying together and you marry and/or have other children in the future, you'll almost definitely want your child to have the same ln as you, your dh and other children, so I'd stick with your ln. As I understand it, it's very easy for the baby to take on its father's ln if you do end up marrying, and I think it's just as easy to change from your maiden name to your new husband's ln if you marry someone else, but I think you may need the father to agree to a name change (absent or not) if the child is going from his ln to your new husband's. Others on here have more info on this if you're interested.
HTH
~Kelli
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I agree with the others - for all the same reasons!
The only thing I'd add... if you bf isn't too excited about using your ln, perhaps you could hyphenate the names? Legally, baby would have both, but for every-day use, baby would have yours. Just an idea.