Am I in the wrong?

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Registered: 12-14-2005
Am I in the wrong?
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Thu, 03-09-2006 - 1:05am
I love the name Raegan Nicole. Nicole is my middle name so I like the thought of using it. But anyways, my boyfriend HATES the name but he can't come up with anything else. Here is the dilema, I live with my parents and I haven't even seen him in the last 2 wks except for like twice (his choice, not mine). Well, I am due in a week and half and was wondering if it would be wrong to go ahead name her what I want seeing as how he hasn't even been around to have an opinion? To me it seems as if he isn't going to be involved, then his opinion shouldn't matter...I am confused and was wondering what you ladies might think about this.
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Registered: 03-09-2006
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 2:33am
name the baby what you want if he isnt around he doent care to much about you or the baby so do what is right by you and your baby call her the name you like!!!! your not in the wrong he is by not sticking around if he wants a say in things he has to show that hes commited in everything to do with you and your new child and if not he has lost all right to have a say !!!
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Registered: 08-02-2004
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 8:45am

I agree... for him to have an opinion that MATTERS means he has to act like a parent...or parent to be in this case. He is not acting like one. And the bottom line is, he may or may not decide to be a part of your daughter's life. ... YOU always will be.

Many hugs and good luck to you!

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Registered: 02-15-2006
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 8:54am

First of all I want to say I really feel for you being in this situation. I can't imagine what you are going through aside from this baby name issue. So my heart really goes out to you.

Secondly, I personally adore the name Raegan. If you like it, I say go for it! Besides if he ends up not being around for the delivery, he REALLY won't have a say anyway.

Good Luck to you sweetie!

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Registered: 12-16-2004
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 9:14am

Have you asked the guy why he is avoiding you?


Maybe he feels like he has no input in the child name there for no input in the child´s well being either.


I know this sound silly, but

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Registered: 09-29-2005
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 11:21am

I agree that if he isn't going to be around he doesn't get a say. ;) However, if you do go into labor and end up naming her what you want, you could always point out to him that he never did offer any other suggestions, since you mentioned that even though he dislikes the name he hasn't ever come up with any alternatives. You're down to the wire here! You can't just let her go without a name because he doesn't like the one you've chosen (but has offered no help otherwise LOL), KWIM? ;)

~Kelli


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Registered: 10-01-2004
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 2:04pm

I haven't read the other girls osts yet so someone might have suggested this o you already. I think that you need to sit down with him and ask him straight out what his intentions are regarding the baby and you. If he wants to be involved explain to him that that means being around and helping out with all aspects and if he doesn't want to be involved then you need to find a way to do it on you own and to get help from friends and family.. Naming her should be done with both of you if he wants to be involved and discuss it like parents do together and if he doesn't name her what you want...

Thats just my opinion, but I hope I helped a little
Casey
Wife to Sean Ryan
Mom to Brennan, Briadyn, and Riordan
TTC number 4

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Registered: 06-16-2004
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 4:05pm

My one question is regarding the birth certificate. Doesn't he have to sign it....thus making him agree to the name? Just a thought, but I could be wrong.


BTW, I love think Raegen is a pretty name.

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