Annoyed with parents - naming MY baby
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| Mon, 02-19-2007 - 7:29pm |
We just found out I'm pregnant, so my parents ask me if we have any names picked out. I tell them Zachary is a possiblity, and my step-father rolls his eyes. Days later I tell my mom we're thinking of Maxwell Paul or Elizabeth Mae. She thinks the girl's name is "okay" but hates Maxwell Paul. The name for a girl SHE likes is Aubrey Lynn, after my grandfather (and my middle name). First, I'm annoyed they're being so negative and think they'll only like a name that THEY pick out. Second, I'm annoyed with myself for caring so much what they think about it. I don't want them to hate their grandchild's name and I know my parents, they'll give me heck about the name for years.
My husband doesn't care what they think, but it's like now there's a grey cloud over these names, and it's name is grandparent.

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Grandparents tend to think it's all about them ... meanies! ;) They've already named their own children, but they want a crack at yours as well.
Simple solution: stop telling them what names you're considering. Or, if you really want to have some fun, only "share" the most outrageous, ridiculous names you can think of. That way, when you really name her Elizabeth, for example, they'll just be glad it's not really Raynbough Goo-Goo Bean.
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Yep, I agree with that advice. Don't tell people your names ahead of time!! Just smile and sweetly say, "That part's a secret, we'll tell you after he/she is here ... " then change the subject.
The funny thing is, I'll probably be that kind of Gramma, lol! I just love naming babies and don't have enough to use up all the names I like so have already (jokingly) told my kids what they should name their babies.
Darla
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joanne
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Best advice I can give you is to pick your names and keep them to yourselves!
Really. It is so hard. Not everyone is going to love your choices (when they can still be changed too much can be said). Instead come up with two names that you can give people when they ask (Pick names you don't plan on using anyway). That will keep people happy.
Then keep the names you want a secret between you & your hubby. Once that little one is born they will LOVE (trust me) whatever name they grow into.
I know from experience how hard it can be. We named our daughter Chapel Elizabeth. She is now 4 and it suits her beautifully. The very people who hated it when they first heard her name adore it now. Our son is Sean Thomas and that seemed to be ok with everyone. No matter what someone is going to have something to say.
Good luck to you!!!
My mother has already started telling me what I can't name my children before I've even married my fiance, not to mention I'm not even pregnant (hopefully) yet! My mother and father have names starting with the letter P and named all three of their children with names beginning with P. She has forbid me to name any child of mine with a name beginning with P. Well.. I'm getting married to a guy who's name is Peter. If we ever have a boy it's being named after him. For a girl we both like the name Petra (which is a feminine form of Peter btw). It's something we had discussed long before my mother layed down the law on what I could or could not name my kids. I figure I'll break the news to her after the child is legaly stuck with whatever name myself and the babies father think is appropriate for our child. As much as she would love to have a say in the matter, she doesn't, nor will she ever. We've already decided that if she asks what we're naming our future children once the time comes to actually be naming them that we'll just tell her some random name to keep her happy.
Turdle
I can't help but laugh at the idea of telling my family fake names for the baby, that idea never occured to me.
I do have to agree with the others though, just don't tell them what your choices are. We did that recently with our third child. I was tired of both sides of the family wanting us to name the baby after a relative plus someone always hates every name you choose so we just didn't tell anyone. It became a game for everyone to play, we gave everyone the number of letters and they'd see who could guess what it would be. Since the day Jessica Marley was born, each person we've told the name to has had nothing but nice things to say.
Edited 2/26/2007 9:57 pm ET by cosmicfawn
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