Annoyed with parents - naming MY baby

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Registered: 03-18-2004
Annoyed with parents - naming MY baby
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Mon, 02-19-2007 - 7:29pm

We just found out I'm pregnant, so my parents ask me if we have any names picked out. I tell them Zachary is a possiblity, and my step-father rolls his eyes. Days later I tell my mom we're thinking of Maxwell Paul or Elizabeth Mae. She thinks the girl's name is "okay" but hates Maxwell Paul. The name for a girl SHE likes is Aubrey Lynn, after my grandfather (and my middle name). First, I'm annoyed they're being so negative and think they'll only like a name that THEY pick out. Second, I'm annoyed with myself for caring so much what they think about it. I don't want them to hate their grandchild's name and I know my parents, they'll give me heck about the name for years.

My husband doesn't care what they think, but it's like now there's a grey cloud over these names, and it's name is grandparent.

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Registered: 12-26-2006
Mon, 03-05-2007 - 4:21pm
I am due in May, and made it quite clear to all, that while I appreciated and welcomed everyone's input on what names they liked, that it is ultimately my decision, together with hubby of course. I also made it clear that they should not get offended when I tell them I don't like one of their names, because to each his own.
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Registered: 08-09-2003
Mon, 03-05-2007 - 5:23pm

We'd told our parents that we wouldn't be sharing the name until the baby was born, but my dad still asked if we'd come up with a name. So we told him "Bill" if it's a boy and "Hillary" if it's a girl. (My parents are STAUNCH Republicans!) That shut my dad up for a while. :-) Now he's accepted the idea that he won't know the name before Peanut gets here, and he's finally stopped suggesting names of University of Tennessee football players. :-)

~Amber

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Registered: 03-05-2007
Tue, 03-06-2007 - 2:09pm
You could do what my friends did...Don't tell anyone the name until the baby arrives. That way the baby is already named and they can't give you their opinion of it. Once the baby is born you can introduce them to Maxwell Paul or whatever name you like!
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Registered: 03-18-2004
Tue, 03-06-2007 - 4:19pm
Well, first, congratulations! Second, it sounds like your husband has already tried to defend you, but I's say this....you have honored their family tradition, now they need to honor you. There was no caveat in the tradition that said they had a say in the child's middle name. You've shown your respect, now they need to show you some.

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