Awkward MIL issue
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| Thu, 12-21-2006 - 10:02am |
I have an awkward MIL situation I wanted some advice on-here's the deal: DH and I have very blissfully agreed on both a boy name and a girl name that we like. For MNs, however, we are running into some problems. The girl FN we like is a family name from my side of the family and the MN that goes with the FN perfectly (and I happen to LOVE) is the maiden name of DH's paternal grandmother. I thought it would be nice to honor both sides of our families with a name and these names happen to be just amazing together (IMHO). Here's the problem: my MIL HATED her MIL and DH insists that she would be devestated if we use his paternal grandmother's maiden name as our baby's MN. I really like and respect my MIL and think he's overreacting. She definitely did NOT get along with her MIL, but it isn't like I'm suggesting we name the kid after this woman's FN, right??? Since the name in question was DH's grandmother's maiden name, it is really a family name and was her father's family name and so on. Anyway, I know this is confusing, but hopefully you get the gist. Should I give up on my dream middle name or should I push DH harder to discuss it with his mom and see how she really feels? TIA!
-Sally
EDD 4/18/07

Edited 12/21/2006 10:47 am ET by cantrellja
I wouldn't worry about it. Use the name you love! ;)
As you said, you're not using her MIL's fn, so you're really honoring your husband's FAMILY, not just this one woman. Also, even if you did want to use her fn, she was still your dh's grandmother, so your own MIL should respect that. You're not talking about using the name of her husband's ex-girlfriend or anything like that. LOL
That said, what you choose to name your child is up to you and your dh alone. He shouldn't have to discuss anything with his mother. If you're afraid she won't like the name, don't share it until the baby's born and it's official. ;)
HTH
~Kelli
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