baby name

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Registered: 02-21-2007
baby name
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Wed, 02-21-2007 - 9:09pm
my husband and are havig our first child, a baby boy i like this name that i found in one of our baby books but at the same time he hs chosen a middle name that i hate. How do we come to term with the baby's name i have only 8 weeksto go.
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Registered: 06-25-2006
In reply to: bryndah2007
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 10:12pm

Do you mind sharing the names?

Did you make an agreement that you pick the first name and he picks the middle?

I don't have kids yet, but I think it's ideal that both parents at least really like the names. I think it'd be easy to hold on to resentment about the other person's name choice if you hated the child's mn (like in your case).

My best advice without any more info from you would be to keep looking- 8 weeks still allows you plenty of time to work this out. If you have strong feelings, don't give up on them, but clearly and calmly explain to your hubby why you feel that way and listen to his feelings also. Be open and willing to compromise, but not be walked all over- know what I mean?

Hope this helps & you have a great end of your pregnancy,

Liz

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Registered: 01-15-2007
In reply to: bryndah2007
Fri, 02-23-2007 - 12:24am

Don't worry! Eight weeks is plenty of time. There are so many ways to reach agreement on a name; but the way that works for one couple may not work at all for another. In my case, I chose the first name because my husband wanted the baby to have his last name, and we chose a middle name together. Some people consider that strange, but it worked for us.

Is there someone that you and your husband might want to name the baby after, such as a dear friend or a grandparent, or a combination of friends'/relatives' names? If not, you might want to look through baby names together to see if anything jumps out at you. You might want to narrow the field to names that begin with certain letters, such as a first name that starts with your first initial and a middle name that starts with his, or vice versa, or a name with the same initials as a relative or godparent. If the baby will have your husband's last name, would your last name/maiden name make a good first name or middle name? Some place names make good first or middle names; for example, some people like London, Austin, Paris, etc., as names - is there a place with a cool name that has special meaning for your family? Or perhaps you could list 5 or 10 first names that you like, and let him choose the one he likes best, and then switch and do the same for middle names? I don't know what will work best for you, but don't despair - - you will surely find a name that you both like in eight weeks' time. Good luck!