Baby Name Etiquette?
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| Tue, 10-19-2004 - 2:06pm |
Is it wrong to use it bc she is set on it? Should I discuss it with her to see if she minds? Isn't it a SUPER popular mn anyway? What if they don't have girls?! What if they have all boys?! Then we both missed out on using it?
I had Elizabeth and Elisabeth on my list for a long time (actually with dd #1). I am actually considering it as a "first name-middle name" you know like Mary Elizabeth- calling her by both names. Does that make it different than just using it as a "silent" middle name? Would it really matter if we both had daughters with the middle name Elizabeth (possibly with a different spelling)?
Any advice would be great. I know people are funny about baby names when they get their mind set on it, especially when it has sentimental value. I don't want her to hold it against me but on the other hand, I would love to use it!AAHH! I wish Martha Stewart were free and able to answer my post! :)
Thanks,
Jen
12/10/04

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For example, I love the name Lauren, but my new niece is named that so it's out for us.
I would say definitely talk with her about it. After all, she already has it I don't know why she would be upset. I think my problem now is convincing dh that it's ok to have 2 cousins share a grandparent's name. After all, many families have first cousins with the same first name - mostly b/c boys were named after the grandfather, etc. I think my SIL has spoken to him and convinced him that it's not right and now he's adamant against using it???
Good luck.
Hope
My name is Elisabeth Charlotte - grandmother's names on both sides. My cousin is Sarah Elizabeth - again family related. Its never been a problem since she's Sarah and I am Elisabeth.
HTH
Elisabeth
I think it is perfectly fine to use the same middle name. What a beautiful name it is too!
In my dad's family, my grandmother had sisters Mary, Alice, Catherine and a John. All of her cousins all had the same names! LOL! Each of them ended up with weird nicknames and it was fine.
Even in my family we tend to reuse some of the names. My grandmother was Catherine Viola, my mom is Virginia Catherine, I have a sister Katherine and a sister Virginia. I have neices Katherine Carroll (kate), Katherine Carroll (Casey), Meghan Katherine, Hannah Catherine and my dd is Anna Catherine (Annie). Their ages are from 3 to 18 and we live all over New England and the Tri State area so it is not a problem. My ds is John Richard (Jack) after my dad (John/Jack) and fil (Richard). One sister has a Jonathan Richard after my dad (John/Jack) and her dh (Richard). My sister was going to name her son Jack Richard after my dad (John/Jack) and her fil (Richard) but ended up having a girl. We live 1.5 hours away and they would have been 5 years apart. I didn't mind. My dad passed away and I think it is great to honor my dad in so many ways.
I would speak to your sil and explain why you want to use the name. I bet she will be fine with it.
Best of luck.
Mary
(big sigh) Thank you for your responses. I still am anxious about talking to her about using Elisabeth/Elizabeth for a mn. I know that some people are sensitive about names.
Wish me luck!
Jen
12/10/04
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