Baby's Last Name?
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| Thu, 08-11-2005 - 7:46pm |
Hello, i'm new to the boards, i found i was pregnant two days ago :)
My partner and i were discussing baby names, we are married, but we have different last names. I'd like our baby to have my last name and he (and his parents) want the baby to have his name.
He is an only child and is worried about keeping his family name going, but I really like my last name, and his last name is.... well.... pretty dorky... you know? so i would like our baby to have the same name as me. Am i being mean or shallow? I don't want the baby to be teased at school in the future, and what will people think when i tell people the baby's name is different to mine - like the baby is not mine or something?
Also we are in California, are there any laws that will force us to take one name or the other?
Have any of you been in this situation and what would you do to resolve it? I'd like to hear your opinions please!
Thank you!

A few options
1 hypinate both names wich does cause a long last name but both names are used and one won't get lost
2 use one as a middle name
I took my husbands name when I got married it is much easyer to pronounce and spell
but all of my children will have my maidan name as there middle name
I think you should do a hyphenated last name - with the dad's name first and your name last - then when the child is an adult he can choose to drop one or the other if he wants.
I've known some kids with hyphenated names who, on their own in high school, just went by the one of their choosing because they got tired of dealing with the double name
Personally, I guess I'm old-school, and I feel in cases like yours the children should have the father's last name. but it sounds like you guys are in for a fight about this, so I think the hyphenated idea is your best choice