Beware!

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Registered: 09-29-2005
Beware!
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Tue, 06-12-2007 - 11:20pm

Apparently, it's now become un-PC to support a name someone else here might dislike (and here I thought the opposite was generally the rule ... live and learn! LOL).


After replying to a post about real-life family and friends giving very negative comments concerning the name a family had already chosen for their child, I was reported for "personally attacking" cantrellja because she happens to dislike the name as well. Hmmm. I'm confused.


Apparently, cantrellja took these comments to mean that she had little style or taste based on the simple fact that she doesn't care for the name in question. Again, I'm puzzled. I replied to clarify, pointing out that I had been responding to the original poster's personal situation -- in no way considering or addressing cantrellja (and why would I? It wasn't she who posted the question! LOL) -- and that I hadn't even read any other replies prior to posting (when in fact, there WERE NONE to be read


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Registered: 04-06-2007
In reply to: mommyagain6124
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 11:50pm
Is this the same person who caused all the drama on the other Baby Names board?


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Registered: 05-16-2003
In reply to: mommyagain6124
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 11:54pm

Kelli-
I'm stunned. I can't believe somebody reported your post. You are one of the most supportive people on this board. I also can't believe the "powers that be" aren't savvy enough to be able to read the whole thread & see you did NOTHING wrong.

The whole POINT of this board is to get feedback on names. Reality is not everyone is going to like every name. And if somebody doesn't realize that, then that's their problem not ours.

Lets all grow-up get get over it.
Andi

Andi


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Registered: 09-29-2005
In reply to: mommyagain6124
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 11:56pm
I'm not sure, Liz. I haven't been over there in a while. Same sort of thing going on?

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Registered: 04-06-2007
In reply to: mommyagain6124
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 11:59pm
I was just visiting there for the first time in a while. A long-time poster has left ivillage because she got reported. I'm not sure the details but everyone is quite upset about it. I don't think they knew who reported her, though. She, like you, was a very supportive poster....


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Registered: 09-29-2005
In reply to: mommyagain6124
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:03am

Thanks, Andi. You have no idea how much that means to me. And yes, the "powers that be" thing is what prompted me to post this (silly and trivial as I know it seems). It was just so out of left field, and I couldn't believe the "scolding" I got (from those same powers LOL) for trying to simply stand up for myself after what I felt to truly be a very personal attack (and yet I wasn't the one that ran to them, so apparently that makes me guilty ROFL).


Still, not trying to dwell on it, but I honestly can't believe that's what warrants a reprimand these days. Thought I'd warn everyone else to tread lightly. LOL


And thank you again for the kind words. I really needed them tonight. :)


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Registered: 09-29-2005
In reply to: mommyagain6124
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:07am
Oh, that is a shame, Liz! It's horrible when you've been here for so long and people still manage to completely misunderstand you ... like they've never seen a post from you before and honestly think you just popped in off the street to stir things up and cut them down or something? I love all the "friends" I've made here -- virtual or not LOL -- and it's a shame when you can't feel comfortable posting honest opinions or support for fear of upsetting someone who apparently still doesn't "know" you, KWIM? Just seems to bring the community down as a whole. :(

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Registered: 02-28-2004
In reply to: mommyagain6124
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 8:12am

Yeah I'm pretty much a regular over there, and the whole thing was a little crazy. There were a few contentious discussions spurred by someone who is not really a regular, but they were taking care of the bickering, getting it out of their systems, and it would have been fine. Apparently it was all reported by someone else entirely, seemingly with a bent on one particular person, the aforementioned woman who has never said anything even vaguely rude to anyone. She probably doesn't have a cynical bone in her body. She left because she was tired of the pettiness of the policing system. There were some annoying "big-brother" mod posts about watching our tone, which put everyone over the edge.

Let's all be nice, calm, and collected, people! We don't want a repeat of that! If there are two ways to interpret a post, interpret it in the most positive way you can. NOBODY HERE HAS EVIL MOTIVES, and let's keep it that way : )
valerie

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Registered: 05-29-2003
In reply to: mommyagain6124
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 9:37am
Kelli/ Calm down. First, I didn't do the "reporting." I wrote what I thought in my post and let it speak for itself. I also was not part of the debacle over on the other board...don't even know what happened over there. I don't know who reported the post, but things like that happen sometimes. I was reported for a post once (a post that I had to admit was harsh) about 8 months ago on this board. I got over it, took whatever lesson I could from it and moved on. I hope you can do the same. No hard feelings. I mean, they're baby names, for goodness' sake! We're supposed to be nesting and getting excited about our impending little ones (and mine is due in 2 weeks), not being nasty with each other. Let's play nice.
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Registered: 03-01-2007
In reply to: mommyagain6124
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 10:04am

Ladies,


In order to ensure that the atmosphere on this board stays supportive and friendly, we're going to close this post for further posting.


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