Burned Out???
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| Mon, 03-13-2006 - 11:15am |
on names all together...do you have any advise? My husband and I have been working so hard on finding the right name for our baby that we are almost burned out and now it's though almost nothing fits. It's all a big name pool blur and nothing seems to stick out and hit heart anymore.
We are even doubting now the name we initially chose bcs of all the mixed feedback we received. It now has sort of a burned-out negative buzz to it. We did find some other names but they only seem to stick for a day and then sound off.
What should we do? Should we just stop thinking about names for awhile? Wait until we meet the baby? This is our first so this is all new to us. And we only have 4 weeks to go!
To add to the story, we were told we were having a girl on three different occasions and then on our last ultrasound the doctor said she thought she saw balls??? So, now we are needing to take the boy name seriously and are back in the land of 50/50 as to whether we are having a girl or a boy. We do have our girl name picked out already.
Looking forward to getting some advise from some experienced moms who have actually named their children for life and felt good about it!!! Help?!?!
Many thanks,
Carey
Due Date: April 14th

Ah yes, you sound like DH and I. We are trying to name our 3rd boy and are not getting anywhere. At this point, we are just going to go in with our list and see which name fits him when he is born. (I am due in 3 days.....)
Yes, you can get burned out and it is stressful. We make it a point to not share names with family or friends because we don't want to hear their thoughts about names we potentially love and would use. I use this board to get thoughts and opinions, and just remember to keep an open mind.
Just sit back and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. COntinue to talk about names, but don't let it get to you. As with what happened with our first 2 boys, when they were born, we just looked at them and KNEW what their name was meant to be. It will all work out!
Theresa
Aww, sorry you are stressing out. It's a tough job. I know lots of people who've been in your situation.
Here is what I would recommend:
Take a full week or even two, and just don't discuss it. Don't post, don't talk to you DH or family or friends, nothing. Obviously each of you will still be thinking about it, I don't think there is anyway to get it completely off your mind. But at least try to relax and not worry too much. Hopefully this time will help the names not to be such a blur and help you feel less anxiety.
At the end of your allotted time, sit down with your DH and make a list of your top 3-5 names. Over the remainder of your pregnancy, you can adjust that list as needed.
First of all, don't SCARE me like that...I've had 2 u/s (Level II at 19 wks and regular one at 21wks) and they both said definitely a girl. How far along were you with each ultrasound? I'm still wondering if this "girl" is another boy (I have three!).
DH and I are in the same boat as far as names go, we really thought it would be easy to pick out a girl name and just haven't found the right name yet. We decided to just wait a couple of weeks and see how we feel after the "break". I don't know what we'll do if we have to come up with another boy name...
TJ
3ds
dd due 6-5
Each set of grandparents has a separate/different recommendation- and both grandfathers were Adamantly (I can't stress this strongly enough) opposed to Quentin or Quinn (in honor of his being our fifth child), William Quentin was the only name that both my DH and I thought had any true meaning/siginifance. But we don't want so many members of our family having strong negative gut reactions everytime they hear our child's name.
The family names that we wanted to use/honor we have already been used on our first two sons, or by my sisters, who have had 4 boys, removing those options as well.
Sorry for the rant.
Let me know how the rest of you are doing in your search for the perfect name.
Alex
dd-5/28/06
My sweet hubby and I always go to the delivery room with a litteral list of favriot names...usually 4 or 5...and name the baby several hours after we meet him/her.
For us and our 4th daughter its been a task...cause this time we really have to find a name that fits with ones we already have. But here are some of our favriots...in case:
Marta Beth
Aloura (my 18mo old)(a-lora)
Annika Katherine
Audrey Katherine
Tori Sue
Abigale(mine, lol) Beth
Janice Merie
Liam Garren(instead of Darren)
Oh and my hubbys name is DAVIN, and I love that one
Landon
Zander
Keith
Matty (short for nothing)Sue
Vivee (short for nothing)Sue
Literally write out a list of do-ables and see what the little one fits into the best...remember about nick names other kids will make up though...our daughter Aloura was almost a Cooper(if shed have had a tally wacker)...and after the fact I met someone named cooper and the kids called him cooper pooper, lol.
the 2 of you together, and individually as well.
(maybe some pampering for yourself)
nothing like Good Fun to refresh ourselves.