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| Mon, 06-20-2005 - 7:28pm |
My mother-in-law insists that we use Cristobal. I don't know about anyone else but I don't really like this name, at all. The husband wants to use it to please his mother. I don't give a hoot what his mother wants and doesn't want. So, once more, we've decided to compromise like we've done in the past with Elena's name. Instead of Cristobal, we've decided upon a variant, which would be Christian. This is the only name that the husband and I can actually agree on so far, and, one that we both really like. What do you think of Christian Javier, with sister Elena Grace?

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Christian is really nice, as for the MIL, she had her chance to name kids when she had hers....Cristobal has got to be one of the worst names that I've heard in a long time (sorry MIL)! Even if I could like it, it sounds very feminine to me.
Lisa
Unless MIL is pushing the baby out of her own womb, you don't need to compromise with her on anything.
Cristobal is a horrid name. Crystal ball. Disco ball. Ugh.
I do love Christian. The question is do YOU.
I have to agree here and what right does she have to insist on what you name your child? Ugh! Christian is very nice though. Good luck!
I LOVE it! I love the name Christian & it goes well w/ Elena.
Great decision!!
I am a MIL, but can't imagine telling my DDIL what to name her new baby! I did make some suggestions. 1. Use a name that everyone knows what it is and how to say when they see it. 2. Don't go with some crazy spelling. 3. Make sure that it isn't a name that will get the child teased later on and 4. Don't give the kid four or five names. This is coming from being a kindergarten teacher for years. I even told my DDIL and DS#1 that I would support them in their awful choice of a name for child #1 (who thank the good Lord turned out to be a girl), Bruno Joseph. I also said something to my DD when she was going to name child #2 Dylan Christopher, a beautiful name. But that year I had a kid from hell named that! All I said was, I'd grow to love the name.
Anyway, tell your DH to support you not his mother. That is what marriage is about. I like the name Christan. It is a name that he can grow into or can have a good nickname. I'm not crazy about Javier, but then again this is your baby, not mine. I love the name Elena Grace.
another idea...
we don't tell ANYONE our name ideas. no one, not family, not my own mother (ok, but the ladies on the boards i will tell :)!! it kills them, but it is the only way we feel we can "keep something special" between us and for the babe PLUS it gives us the ability to chose the name that WE love without all the harassment. you can't make everybody happy, right?
best wishes! and like i said earlier...christian is a great name!
When we were expecting, we did something simiilar to what articmomma said. We generally kept our names to ourselves, but had some really awful made up names ready if people pushed. These tended to be family names that sounded bad together.
I wouldn't tell your MIL what you were planning to use, but instead tell her you had a couple picked out that you would decide on when the baby is born. If she insists on knowing what those are, come up with something really off the wall, like Cristobal!!
Good luck -- and I think Christian Javier is a really nice complement to Elena Grace.
Crystal ball!? That is what I thought when I read the name.
Not to be rude, but who is carrying this child!? Name him what you and your husband want to name him...................R U KIDDING ME that you are gonna give in!?
Good luck! (Christian Javier does sound nice though)
Another idea... if he really wants to use Cristobal, what about using it (or Christian) as the mn? So Javier Christian. I think that goes very well with Elena Grace.
Just a thought,
Stephanie
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