Down to two names....how do I choose?

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Down to two names....how do I choose?
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Thu, 03-23-2006 - 10:31am

I started with a LONG list of names, but I think I've narrowed it down to two. My problem? How in the world do I choose? I love them both equally. I suppose I can use one and "save" the other. I just feel like if I pick one, I'll regret not using the other and vice versa. Any advice? How did you finally end up choosing? FYI, my husband likes both, so that's not really helpful either.

Here are the names...mn's are yet to be determined but are not as much of a concern to me.

Lorelei Thomas
Julia Thomas

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Thu, 03-23-2006 - 10:55am
Two great names! I personally like Julia better, but Lorelei is more unique. Take them both to the hospital & decide when you meet her. Sometimes they really do come out w/nametags. ;)
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Thu, 03-23-2006 - 11:25am
I agree with the pp, keep both names until she is born. With all of my kids I knew if the name we picked was right or wrong for them within an hour or so after they were born. Both names are really nice, I don't think you can go wrong either way.


Edited 3/23/2006 1:24 pm ET by aidensmum
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Thu, 03-23-2006 - 12:17pm
I'm just going to echo the previous posters -- both names a beautiful and you can't go wrong. I would wait until you meet her and just see which fits her better. And yes, you can always save whichever you don't choose for a future baby. :)



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Thu, 03-23-2006 - 12:18pm
The previous posters have it right, you really don't have to choose between the two until you see her. We had two names picked out for my first son and I was still stressing about not having decided between them as we drove to the hospital, but within minutes of seeing him I knew that he looked like an Eric and not a Gregory.
You are actually lucky to have it down to only 2 choices, my list still has 5-6 names (and seems to be growing rather than getting shorter). I know what you mean about being worried about regretting not using the other name though. I wonder how many others have used the names that were not selected for future children, because oddly enough we never have.
Best wishes,
Alex
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Registered: 11-18-2005
Thu, 03-23-2006 - 12:25pm
why don't you wait to see whether she looks like a Lorelei or a Julia, she may totally not look like one or the other.
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Thu, 03-23-2006 - 12:36pm
I had the same problem with DS. We had 2 great names (both with different mns that honored family members). I went back and forth the whole pregnancy and finally decided that I would just wait until the baby was born to decide what I thought the baby seemed more like. Well that didn't work because once the baby came I felt it looked and could have been either. It took us 2 days in the hospital to decide and we would probably still be deciding if it weren't for the nurses making us pick for the social security paperwork.
It came down to DH and I writing out both names (printing and cursive) with the last name and trying to see which looked better. Finally we chose one and I do like it, but now that he has developed into himself (his hair and eye color have been established) I feel like he looks more like the other name we had chosen for him and whenever I hear it out in public I sort of regret not using it. I do love his name and I keep reminding myself that if we had gone with the other name I'd probably question it and regret it as well. So, I guess you can't win - especially if you're like me - unable to make decisions to save my life and always asking myself "what if?".
I'm totally rambling and I guess I wasn't much help, but I'm hoping I have another boy now so I can use the other name.
Anyway, I like both of those names too and I can see why you're torn. Hopefully it will come to you at some point from now until the birth or maybe you will see the baby and she will look like more of a Julia or more of a Lorelei.
Good luck!
Hope
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Registered: 03-23-2006
Thu, 03-23-2006 - 12:58pm

You can have Lorelei as the first name and Julia as the middle, also you can have two first names, I work at the Vitals Dept. so I can relate to some parents that have this little stressful, good luck to you....

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Registered: 12-09-2005
Thu, 03-23-2006 - 2:47pm
Both names are beautiful. What I would do, is bring both to the hospital and see which one works. I'm sure that as soon as you soon your daughter, you will know which one is right.

                             
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Thu, 03-23-2006 - 3:26pm
I appreciate everyone's feedback. I think the suggestion to take both names to the hospital and then see which "fits" is a good idea. I will probably feel a prompting one way or the other once I see her. If not, I guess I can always toss a coin, right? :) j/k
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Fri, 03-24-2006 - 2:07pm

I agree with the pp -- take them both to the hospital. Both are great names, but have a different feel, so one may just seem "right" when you see her. We actually took three names to the hospital for DD#1, and when she was born, a nurse looked at DH and asked, "What's her name?" He said that he panicked for a second b/c she was born and didn't have a name, so he blurted out, "Megan Joy!" It was one of our three choices, and it really did suit her. It was funny how it happened, but it is definitely her name -- she's not a Madeline or Carolyn/Caroline. :-)

HTH!
Stephanie w/ Megan and Julianna (nn Annie)

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