DS is 14 months...help me spell his nn!
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DS is 14 months...help me spell his nn!
| Wed, 02-15-2006 - 10:41am |
Hi naming experts!
I haven't been to this board in a long while, but I'm really struggling with my son's nickname. My DH thinks I'm crazy (probably!). His name is Tobias Wade, and he is usually called Tobey. Since it's a nickname, we never had an "official" spelling, but started out spelling his nn with the "ey". Our reasoning behind this was because we live in a intellectual college town area, and baby naming is pretty progressive here—we had read about "Toby" being used as a girl's name, and figured people in our area would be likely to


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First of all, I love all your boys' names. As for Tobey/Toby - I've never met a girl named Toby. I don't think of it as a unisex name, a few girls here and there might be starting to use it, but it's still all-boy to me.
I would go with Toby
Tobey just looks kinda weird for some reason
good luck
I prefer Toby over Tobey. And I've never met a female Toby!!
It might take a while for your friends & family to get used to seeing "Toby" on correspondence but I think you should change it if it's bugging you like it is.
I don't think it is too late to change now. The change would have to be made before Tobias started to write his own name though.
I know of only one girl named Toby and she spells it Tobi, she's probably 25 or 26, (a few years ahead of me in school). So to me, Toby is your best bet, and doesn't give me any hint that it might be a little girl instead of a little boy.
Whitney
The two females I know named Toby are each over 50 years old. So it's not a new phenomenon. When you chose the name Tobias, I'll assume you knew that it wasn't a "macho" kind of name to begin with. It's not Axel or Mario. So what do you care if a small handful of middle-age women share the spelling of his nickname?
Incidentally, all the guys I know with this name (that's one man my father's age, one I went to high school with and two I baby-sat for,) spell it Toby.
If you really like Old English names, note that the Old English spelling of Toby was Tobie (as in Sir Tobie Matthew).
Tobey looks wrong. It irks me a little that Tobey Maguire's name is spelt like that, but he's super famous so it doesn't really matter.
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