everyone is so weirded out by my name

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everyone is so weirded out by my name
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Sat, 01-28-2006 - 3:12pm
I will give birth to my first child in 2 weeks, (I HOPE). Since I first
learned that he will be a boy, MY husband and I had agreed on the name.
SYNJIN ELIJAH!!!!! And we absolutely love the uniqueness of this name. As far as the
rest of our families.....they would prefer a more practicle name. I am not going to change my mind, but I would like to hear the opinions of the rest of the board. This
is my son and don't want him to hate me for naming him such a different name. I had a
unique name growing up and I got teased but I also believe it made me strong enough to take criticism well. Tell me what you think, please.

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Registered: 09-29-2005
Sat, 04-01-2006 - 9:32pm

Annie about covered it! It is unfortunate that you did not have a chance to read these responses at the actual time of your post, because obviously looking at them now, after you have already decided to name your son this, it's easy to see how this might seem like a personal attack on your son's actual name.

However, when you originally posted, you asked for honest opinions on the name and even stated that you were aware many people were not very fond of it. So of course people felt free to give you just that -- their honest opinions. If you had stated that this was the name you had already chosen for your son, you would have gotten many more positive responses, regardless of people's personal opinion of the name itself.

Generally, when someone is simply mentioning/announcing a name they have already chosen, they will not be criticized for it. If someone really doesn't care for it, they simply won't reply, or may mention that it's not their style, but "congrats anyway," basically.

But this isn't what you asked for. You wanted honest opinions. You got them. No reason to be offended. Perhaps a better course of action for you would have been to simply post an announcement that your son was here. You'd be surprised how many polite replies you would have gotten.

HTH, and congratulations on the birth of your son.

~Kelli


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Sun, 04-02-2006 - 8:43pm

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Annie -

If I remember correctly the Synjin spelling was after a soccer player. When the post originally appeared I did a google search and found out that the soccer player (or what ever sport it was) actually had the MN of St. John. So I can confirm that the OP was already told that.

<<<(Also, where was I in the mid 80s? I don't remember this show at all!)>>>

I assume that I'm much older than you. I actually watched the original Air Wolf because I loved Jan Michael Vincent (he looked a lot better than he does now). When I was younger "Sandcastles" was my favorite movie. JMV played a boy who died and then came back for love. It made me cry just to thing about it. I also watched the remake of Air Wolf because I knew Barry Van Dyke from the Battlestar Galatctica remake (not the one that's on now). Yes, I was a geek.

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Registered: 01-10-2006
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 2:10pm

Reading through this thread is like watching a feeding frenzy. In fact, some of the posts reminds me a lot of the kind of unkind attack the posters were predicting for this little boy when he gets to school. I wont lie and say that Synjin is my favourite name or that everyone should pretend to like it, however I think honesty and insensitivity have two very different definitions and too many of those responding to the original question used the request for honesty as an invitation to bring out the knives. It's pretty pathetic.

By the way, I have a very "normal" name (Kristen) and I was teased by being called "Piss-ten". Kids are damn creative; and the only thing this mother can be accused of is taking the fun out of it. In a way she might be doing her kid a favour...the bullies will probably move on to more a challenging target. Besides, what about names like John? I doubt anyone would jump down a mother's throat for naming her son John, even though it is used to describe both a man who frequents prostitutes and a toilet! LOL.

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Sun, 04-16-2006 - 7:30pm

Thank you so much for pointing that out kaedelove. I appreciate your
understanding on the matter. Yes I did ask for all of the posters
opinions and complete honesty on the name I had chosen for my unborn son.
And I recieved just that. I take it all with the realization that they are just that,
other people's opinions. Surely, I am not going to change my mind just because
a few 30 posters decided that I was attaching a scarlet letter to my son.
I think I have alot more important things to worry about other than the
name I have given my son and the harsh things that will come from
it. I will worry about being a good mother and raising him in a loving
environment. I will teach him not to judge a book by it's cover title.
And, maybe in teaching him this he will be less likely to tease other kids
with unique or less unique names. There are many things a child will face
when he leaves the comfort of his home. My job is to give him the knowledge
of right and wrong and to teach him to treat others as he would like
to be treated. I believe all of you meant well even if you have an odd way of
expressing it. However, most of you responded in the same way you forsee future children
responding to my son's name. Obviously, it's not young children that I have to worry
about, but maybe adult's who haven't been taught how to treat others as they would like
to be treated. I appreciate all the congradulations that I recieved and all of your kind words. Have a happy Easter.

Jadeleo

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Mon, 04-17-2006 - 10:10pm
I know this is an old post and I'm just a lurker here, but I think if you like the name then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Why even ask for opinions? We learned that lesson when I was pregnant with baby #3. We ended up naming her Jesseca but if she had been a boy she would have been Helmet or Helmut (we hadn't decided on the spelling yet). I got nothing but cruel, hateful responses from everybody that I mentioned the name to. We are actually TTC baby #4 and if we have another boy, we're naming him Helmut and we could care less what anybody thinks of it. Anyway, congrats on your son and I'm sure people will come to love his name : )
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