family names

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Registered: 01-17-2005
family names
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Thu, 02-10-2005 - 8:17am
Just wondering...So many people use a family name for a mn. How do you determine what name to use? I know that we cannot us a fn when we get pregnant b/c if we pick a name from his family my mother will flip and vice versa. My dh said he wants to do that but I just think its trouble waiting to happen.

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Registered: 08-03-2004
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 9:22am

my dh and i decided NOT to use family names at all. we knew one member of the family would be thrilled, but the rest would maybe be hurt we didn't use thier names. our dd's mn is claire and the 1st word out of my dad's mouth when we told them was "who did you get that name from...who is that after?". had to explain we just liked the name. (we didn't tell anyone our name choices until after she was born to keep it OUR choice).

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leah

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Registered: 01-10-2005
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 9:35am

We are planning to use family names as first and middle. FN from one side MN from the other.

Michelle

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Registered: 11-04-2003
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 10:21am
We used family names in the middle ourselves but none of the relatives we 'honored' by doing that are alive. Our rule of thumb was that the relative had to be deceased and that they had to have been gone for at least 10 years. That way, no feelings get hurt. Plus, it moves unused family names back into play.
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Registered: 05-09-2004
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 11:12am

My first child was named after no-one. My second will be named after someone in my DH's family, and my third will be named after someone in my family =)

#2 Girl: MN Blanche after my FIL
#2 Boy: First initial J and MN David after my DH's grandfather

#3 Girl: MN Elizabeth after me (my step"son" is named after my DH :)
#3 Boy: MN Patrick after my mother

~ Liz, mom to Christopher and Nicholas



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Registered: 01-17-2005
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 11:43am

Good idea...my mother or his mother would still gripe about why we didnt use thier side of the family

Tracie

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Registered: 06-14-2003
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 12:53pm

We started out by determining who the important men in our lives were in our families. Then, after we had chosen a 1st name, we determined which name (from both fns & mns) sounded best w/ the fn we chose for our baby.

-For our 1st son we used dh's mn which is also his father's mn & grandfather's fn.
-For our 2nd son we used my father's fn.
-For our 3rd son we used my grandfather's mn.
-For our 4th son we used the fn of a great-great grandfather of dh who fought & was injured in the Civil War. Just a neat story to explain to our son where his mn came from.

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Registered: 01-02-2005
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 1:32pm
i am naming my 1st little girl camryn jaye, and her mn is after my brother who will be her godfather. My middle name is my godmothers name, so if you use that as an excuse no one can get mad.
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Registered: 04-28-2003
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 3:49pm

My DS's mn is after my father. I figure they are getting my DH's last name, I get 1st dibs on putting my family's name in there. My DD's mn is after my MIL who had recently died. If we have another boy the mn will be William which is convinently a name of both our grandfathers. If it is a girl, we are still working on it. I want it to be aftre someone we loved and had a relationship with, not a distant great aunt. Also it has to be a name we like and want to use.

I guess we are lucky in that I cannot see either family flipping out over nameing after one side and not the other. That seems a little childish to me.

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Registered: 01-17-2005
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 3:56pm
I agree that its very childish. I like the idea that the abby gets the father's ln so the mn can come from mother's family, good idea
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Registered: 11-06-2004
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 9:51pm

DH and I have already agreed not to use any family names as we know that someone's feelings would be hurt. If we were to have a boy, it would be Evan Robert (Robert is my DH fn and he is not named after anyone) For a girl we like Rebecca and we are still at a loss for a mn. We are still TTC and have been for a bit so I know we have time to figure it all out.

~Dana

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