family names

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Registered: 01-17-2005
family names
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Thu, 02-10-2005 - 8:17am
Just wondering...So many people use a family name for a mn. How do you determine what name to use? I know that we cannot us a fn when we get pregnant b/c if we pick a name from his family my mother will flip and vice versa. My dh said he wants to do that but I just think its trouble waiting to happen.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Fri, 02-11-2005 - 5:13pm
we have just one daughter named after family-thats karlee jamesyn.it was down between taht or bailie alexa and i said i really wanted her named karlee n\because shes after my husband-his name is kevi karl and the jamesyn is after his stepdad-which is james.i told him if we could nake her karlee i'd agree for teh james to be used as the middle name but either way it wouldve been that name anyway because i like it.the only other way we'll name a baby(if there is another)if we had a boy he'd have to 2 middle names which is henry donavan-after my poppy and my dad
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Registered: 12-08-2004
Fri, 02-11-2005 - 5:15pm

I think you just have to pick the people who mean the most to you. Sometimes, really great names can come from being original and combining two names. Here are some examples:

My friend's little sister's name is Coral, because one grandmother's name is Carol, and the other grandmother's name is Oriol (and they didn't want to pass on Oriol :-) ).

And, my first daughter (when I ever have one) will be Rosalie Victoria (don't feel bad if you hate it--lots of people do, but I've always loved the name). My middle name is Victoria, after my mom, whose name is Vicki. Rose is my good friend's Catholic confirmation Saint's name, and Leigh is my best friend's middle name. That way, lots of people are covered!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 11:09am

I use names from the family tree but never of someone still living (Dh is Ashkenazic Jew ethnically, even though he's agnostic, the taboo remains) and I put them together in a way that's pleasing to me rather than use them only as mns.

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 10:23pm

I agree with you that using family names CAN cause one side of the family to feel honored ... &

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 12:53pm
In some families there is a tradition and others not. I know some families where the first kid is named for the mom's side and the next is for the father's side. In other families it is the opposite. Some families name after living relatives and others name agter deceased ones. If there will be strife, you have to make a decision to try to appeal to both sides or reject both. But, not choose on over the other.

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