Family tradition: Break or keep
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Family tradition: Break or keep
| Thu, 01-20-2005 - 1:59am |
I'm 5 months pregnant, my boyfriend and I don't want to know the sex until the time comes, but we have a little disagreement. His father, Arturo Keith, wanted all of his childen to have a first name with started with an A, and middle name with a K, I don't mind that but the thing is that my boyfriend is Arturo Keith Jr. and he and basically his whole family says that they want this child, if it's a boy to be Arturo Keith III. I'm not to fond of that name but I don't know what to do about. If you have any advice I would very pleased to hear from you.

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I feel for you! DH's family has been passing down the name Alton for a while and I'm not a fan of it so I'm trying to get DH to pass down his fn instead.
Is there any way you could compromise and use Arturo for a mn? Either that or see if you can talk him into using Arturo for the fn and see if you can dig up a mn from your family tree. Your boyfriend might be more open to a name that has connections to both families if your baby can't be Arturo III.
GL!
It's your child too. What if there were also a tradition in YOUR family that the first son have the initials S.G., for example? What then?
Naming a baby is often a compromise between the mother and father's wishes. It really shouldn't be the decision of other family unless you specifically ASK for their help. Since you aren't opposed to the initials A.K., I think that's the best compromise. Then the initials do remain the same.
To honor their tradition, I would do one of the following-
1. Keep the initials.
2. Offer to let them choose between Arturo & Keith for the middle name.
3. Name him the third and call him Trey, Trip, Trice, Trece(trayce), Bo, Pete or Chip. All of these are nn for Jrs./III. Perhaps you will like one of these nn better.
4. He gets to name boys. You get to name girls.
Let us know what you decide. Good luck.
Don't do it if you don't like the name! My SIL felt pressured to name her son Michael III and she didn't like the name. So, somehow he ended up being called "Tiger" since she didn't like Michael. He's almost 2 and we still call him Tiger! It's your son and you should give him a name that you like! JMO.
Megan
I hope this doesn't come off rudely as I do not mean it that way. I just wanted to point out that you spoke about your "Boyfriend". That would make you unmarried. I would be a little cautious about naming the baby after him...To make him a true III he would need to have his fathers last name. I would have qualms about giving my child the last name of a boyfriend, unless I happend to be engaged with a wedding date set. I have seen too many girls have babies with the "BF" then using his last name, then dad dissappearing, leaving Mom and baby with different last names and a whole lot of questions.
I would suggest like a lot of the others did and succumb to naming the baby with A.K. initials, but wouldn't go for the Trey title. Not to mention you aren't a huge fan of the name anyway....it's your baby...you and bf get to name it whatever you want...the family will get over it.
Good Luck and keep us posted.
Amber
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