Family tradition: Break or keep

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Registered: 01-20-2005
Family tradition: Break or keep
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Thu, 01-20-2005 - 1:59am
I'm 5 months pregnant, my boyfriend and I don't want to know the sex until the time comes, but we have a little disagreement. His father, Arturo Keith, wanted all of his childen to have a first name with started with an A, and middle name with a K, I don't mind that but the thing is that my boyfriend is Arturo Keith Jr. and he and basically his whole family says that they want this child, if it's a boy to be Arturo Keith III. I'm not to fond of that name but I don't know what to do about. If you have any advice I would very pleased to hear from you.

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Registered: 11-10-2004
Fri, 01-21-2005 - 9:34am
what I said to my husband was ... they get your last name I get to pick the 1st name! end of discussion!

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Fri, 01-21-2005 - 3:23pm
I new a guy who was a III & kids called him "the Turd".
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Registered: 04-01-2003
Fri, 01-21-2005 - 9:46pm

I was kinda in your situation except we did this by choice...My father in law is named Victor Lionel, my husband is Victor Selso Alfonso and we decided to name our son Victor Xavier Alexander. I think that you should talk to your boyfriend - don't worry what his family thinks - about possibly naming your son, if you have one, Arturo with a different middle name that still starts with K. (I like the way Arturo Kristopher sounds) Either way, I think it will be a bit difficult coming up with a way to distinguish between the 3 of them - we have that problem even though they all have different MN's! Ultimately it's up to you and your boyfriend...don't feel pressured to try to please the family if it's not something that you truly want! Hope this can help you somewhat!

-Yolanda *SAHM to Victor Xavier Alexander 04.03.04 & ^i^ Elele 01.30.03*

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Fri, 01-21-2005 - 10:16pm
Break it.
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Registered: 01-20-2005
Sat, 01-22-2005 - 8:42pm
I'd break it!!!
New baby + new century + new personality = new name that will fit the baby not the grandfather!!! Besides if the baby will get the father's last name...he will then officially have a family name, and since he is a boy, it will never change!!
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Registered: 01-13-2005
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 2:36am
I know, isn't it bad enough they get to have dad's last name and we are the ones that go though pregnancy,labor and usually raising the kid ourself for most of the time anyway. I think it sucks. But I gave my son his daddy's middle name and last, even we was not married yet, Just because I love him, so I don't know. But I would never go with a Jr or a 3.
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Registered: 01-13-2005
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 2:40am
also, my dad was Jr. and my bro. is III and so my grandpa had to start going by his mn after my dad came, then my dad had to start going by his mn when my brother came!!
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Registered: 01-03-2005
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 7:00pm

First of all, I'd hope for a girl :) I work at a bank and Sr., Jr., III can be a nightmare if all live in the same town.

A few A K ideas for you:
Alexis Kylee
Alysia Koreen
Aleya Kristyn
Ashlyn Kelsey
Abygail Kierstyn

or any combination of the above.

Boys:
Ashton Kirk
Ardon Keith
Alexander Kurtis
Austin Kendall

Hope this helps!!
Shelly
EDD 7/7/05

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 7:10pm
This is ultimately your decision and if you don't like the name, don't commit yourself to this name. You should want a name you love. And considering you aren't married to this man, and shouldn't feel so obligated. Let everyone else name their own children whatever they want. This is your child, not theirs. Put your foot down now before this family stomps all over you. Plus, in the worst case scenario, if you break up, aren't you going to be sorry with that name?
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Registered: 02-26-2004
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 8:20pm

I say break it! My DH is Ted IV and I told him years ago (I think before we were married) that I did NOT want a Ted V. In fact, his mom didn't want a Ted IV, but she caved. I don't think it's that important to DH, but he's brought it up a number of times. Luckily, we have a DD and we're expecting another girl so I've avoided that discussion for another round. I might be more inclined to go for it if I and II were still alive. How cool would that be to have 5 generations together with the same name? I don't like the name, but I would possibly consider it if they were all still alive.

I used to have the worst time with DH's grandmother, especially when the dementia set in because she would tell a story about Ted or Teddy. Then in the middle of the story she'd change which one she was talking about. I could rarely follow who she was talking about, unless it was a story I had heard before. It's still confusing sometimes with just DH and his dad. I shudder to think what adding a V would do.

Besides that, I think every child should have their own name. DH wanted to name DD after his sister who died several years ago. Her name was Sandra Elizabeth. He wanted to use Sandra, but since we have the same last name I agreed to either using Sandra as the middle name or using Elizabeth. I liked Elizabeth better and since DD is adopted, we used her birthmother's middle name for her middle name.



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