Frustrated w/Family Opinions
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| Wed, 01-11-2006 - 10:32am |
THis is long, so I apologize in advance. Okay, I just need to vent for a second and also need your opinion as to whether I am just being too sensitive. Ever since November when we found out that we are having a boy, our families have been asking us what we have for names. So, we shared some of our initial thoughts with them, to which they turned up their noses in near disgust.
From that point forward, DH and I decided it would be best to keep our name choices "close to the vest" and not announce our baby boy's name until the day of his birth. But even though we told our family this, no one really respected our decision and continued to HOUND us over the holidays. So, we again attempted to test the waters with a few of our ideas, which I must say are not THAT unusual. Some names we had were Caleb, Kameron, Tucker, and Camden. Again, we got nothing but negative feedback.
So in the past week or so, DH and I believe that we've made our final name decision....Chase. So because we were so excited about it, decided to share it with our families. I told just my mom over the phone last week and DH told his parents...his mom actually said she liked it, but his Dad did not. And my mom said she did like it. But when the phone rang last night (my parents live 8 hours away in Maryland), my dad opened the conversation with "How are you feeling? How's Chevy Chase?" Ok, so my dad thinks he's a comedian, but I was really insulted. Especially how he continued to berrate the name. I should also mention that I have a girlfriend from High School who's last name is Chase so you can imagine the jokes my Dad came up with there. And I could hear my 2 sisters laughing in the background. And it just really upset me. My Dad then told me I was being silly but "Couldn't we come up with a more 'normal' name?" He just wouldn't quit. Then my sister told me that I was being hormonal. What the EFF?
Do you guys think I am being overly sensitive about this? I know that the bottomline is that this is OUR son and we will name him what we want, but I guess I just feel like I have to appease everyone and that is just realistically not going to happen unless I name him something boring like Steven or Michael.
Anyway, I would be interested in hearing your thoughts.
Thanks,
Danielle
EDD#1 4/22/06 - BOY :)

You are NOT being overly sensitive, however, I would have kept the name to myself until the baby was born (I did that for my 1st 2 and will do it again this time). The problem is that before your child is here, people feel they can say whatever they want and it won't hurt your feelings because the name isn't "final". Once the baby is born you will rarely hear a person say, "CHASE?????!!!" with a sound of horror because it is now final and they have to live with it. I wouldn't say anymore at this point... no one will change their minds about how they feel and you shouldn't change a name you love based on their comments. It sounds like they wouldn't like anything you would pick anyway.
BTW - Chase is my favorite of the names you listed! Go with it!