Giving baby 2 last names?
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| Wed, 05-23-2007 - 11:38am |
Dh and I have been married 20 years come June and are expecting our 6th baby, a boy. We have struggled with having a short, very popular last name. The problems with a common last name become more and more apparent. When I go to the Dr., dentist, etc. they have someone else's chart pulled. Recently, our oldest dd, 18 years, was sent threatening letters claiming she owed money to a creditor. We hope that has been proven wrong but other things have affected her. When she applied to colleges, she missed out on scholarships she was qualified for when her info / references were mistakenly put in another student's file with the same name.
My 16 year old dd also deals with having a common first and last name and would like to change her last name to my maiden name hyphen last name. I am throwing around the idea of giving the new baby my maiden name as well as dad's last name so we don't have to change it later. My dh hasn't really commited to changing the last name.
Would it just seem too awkward having a new baby with a double last name that no one else yet shares? I will be checking on what the name change process is like. I don't want to create additional headaches but I'm tired of all of us being tormented with other's lives who share the same name.
Any thoughts would be appreciated.
Rebecca, mom to 5, edd 8/5/07

I'm definitely not a fan of giving this child a different ln (or double ln) not shared by the rest of the sibs. Especially in a family where the children are relatively spread-out age-wise, it makes it seem this was a second marriage (different mother or father than the other kids). There's absolutely nothing wrong with that, but having known quite a few families where this is the case, the younger child(ren) often feel left out. Like the older one's are more their aunts and uncles or cousins rather than actual siblings. A common bond, such as a shared surname, helps a great deal. In fact, many of these blended families I know have gone as far as to change the surname of ALL the children (either to the father's or to a double ln, to include everyone).
So if you were changing all the kids' surnames, that would be one thing, but to simply give this child a different one seems odd.
A more practical option would be to simply choose a less common FIRST name. To use my own dd's as examples, Devanie Smith would be MUCH less common -- and therefore less likely to run into the sort of mix-ups you're worried about -- than Abigail Smith. It's really that simple. ;)
HTH
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That seems very unnecessary to me. Just give your baby a more unique fn.
-Nikki
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My suggestion...make the baby's middle name your maiden name and then they can decide if they want to use it with the last name or not.