In hot water with In-Laws!!!

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In hot water with In-Laws!!!
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Thu, 04-17-2008 - 11:19am

Hello all - this is really long and I apologize but, I need help.


I have a dilemma that goes back 4 years now - and it is has now become an issue - a big one.

Stacey - Mom to Liam, Kylie, Keira and soon-to-be Baby Jake

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Registered: 04-17-2008
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 5:28pm
You are such a great person for putting up with the inlaws like you have. I would have never agreed to as much as you have. That baby
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Thu, 04-17-2008 - 5:50pm

Have you explained to dh that your reason for not wanting William is because Liam is a form of that?

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Registered: 01-25-2008
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 6:09pm

How many kids do you have to have before your family is honored in some way?

 

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Registered: 01-15-2007
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 7:46pm

So you'd have a William and a Liam?

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Registered: 10-25-2007
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 9:05pm
Imo...I think Wil or Billy are really cute nn for William Jacob : ) That gets my vote and I say the out-laws will get over it!!!
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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 9:02am

Thank you all for all your input.

Stacey - Mom to Liam, Kylie, Keira and soon-to-be Baby Jake

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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 5:56pm
Good luck, and stay firm! Your dh is being unreasonable; I agree with everyone else. You gave in and honoured his family with every child you had together! There is no need to continue the pattern. Even using William as a middle name, when you already have a Liam is pushing it, in my opinion. DH and your in-laws will get over it, and they will love him regardless of his name, once he's here.

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Registered: 03-29-2008
Sat, 04-19-2008 - 1:23am

If you don't love the name, you're going to regret it every time you hear it. He should feel honored enough to have his name as the baby's middle name, you could have dropped it completely. I agree, with Liam being a form of William, it would seem silly to have both.

Ultimately, its your baby and you can't let them decide for you. I love Jacob William. It honors his grandfather and reflects you because you chose it.

Since you said you regret changing Keira's middle name to Connie, I think you will really really regret your son's first name being William. The middle name you don't hear everyday but the first name is how he will identify himself for life.

Good luck!


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Sat, 04-19-2008 - 1:38pm

I completely agree with everyone who said that you should stand your ground. There should never be resentment or regret surrounding the naming of a child!


BUT, understanding that family politics can be really really challenging, here are

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Registered: 02-03-2008
Sat, 04-19-2008 - 2:05pm

I'm so frustrated for you.

I'm sure you have special family members and people in your life who have supported you. Why are all the honorary names going to his side of the family? I would probably be small about it and start whipping out all my beloved relatives' names and insisting that we name our next child after one of them!

I agree with you that Liam and William are practically the same name! YOU never promised his father you'd provide him with a namesake. It isn't your fault that your dh spoke out of turn.

Please stick with your guns. You have a wonderful excuse - the fact that you've already used a form of William! Using William as a middle is a lovely way to honor his dad and that should be graciously accepted by your in-laws. If it isn't, they'll get over it!