How to know you found 'the one'
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| Thu, 03-23-2006 - 10:39am |
I find the naming process so difficult. I can come up with solid girl's names without any problem but am really struggling with finding the right one if it is a boy. I have heard a lot of names that I really like but then they don't stick. How do you know you've found 'the one'?
I mean, I picture me calling him into the room or asking him a question with all of these different names but they just all feel so blah.
We are due in three weeks and are feeling a little nervous that we won't have a good name that we feel good about. And, here, in Switzerland, where I am giving birth one only has about 2-3 days to decide! Yikes!
Anyways, just wondering what all you other mom's do to process the names and to find the one that sticks.
I find I fall in love with a name and within 48 hours it almost feels annoying to hear it again. Strange. Maybe I am going to have a girl after all!?!
The best to all you moms out there who are expecting,
Carey
37 weeks tomorrow!

I am similar to you in many ways!! I didn't have much trouble naming my 2 girls, but I am also in my 37th week and now expecting a boy, and I have found the process EXTREMELY difficult!! I have spent too many hours searching online for names that I might not have thought of yet. I really think that boy names are much more recycled and repeated than girls names-- so it is hard not to have a previous connotation of each name that affects my opinions (usually negatively).
For me, I am a very visual person, so I like to write the name and see the name in various fonts and styles. (Yes probably very Jr. High-ish!) I like to see how it looks with our family members names and such. I think that way, if I become comfortable writing it and reading it, it doesn't look so awkward and new.
Don't worry about it too much, you just want whats best for your little one!!
Best of luck in the coming weeks!!
~Melissa
Maybe you are having a girl. My brother and his wife were so stuck on boys names but had the girls name in the bag. Luckily they had a girl!
I do understand where you're coming from though. I have gone through a list of a million girls names and love them at first but then a few days later I start the second-guessing. I am hopeless!
Maybe we can help? What are your names?
I think it is a lot easier to choose a name (and stick to it) when you have a reason behind that name. Whether it is naming the child after someone who is very important to you, trying to reflect your heritage, or something else that reflects clearly who you and your husband/s.o. are (eg. a place- Austin or Dallas for former Texans or a pastime- like Hunter), I think you are already "bonded" to the reason behind the name, and that makes bonding to the name easier.
I think as long as you are simply looking for names that "sound good", you can feel equally about several names- and not really bonded to any of them.
I doubt that helps much, but that's how I see it.
Alex
I think you make a very good point!! I have definitely noticed a difference in how much I like a name in whether I feel it has significance to me (and my family) or not. I have never really thought about it that way, but it is definitely true!!! (Although the significance can be downplayed if you don't like other components of the name)
~Melissa