how much space do you recommend???
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how much space do you recommend???
| Thu, 04-06-2006 - 12:24am |
i have been talkign to hubby about another baby, how much time do you think we should have between babies? our baby now is almost 4 months. i have a son to be 5 in july,a dn he has a daughter to be 11 in aug. how much time do you recommend to have between each child, or the one we are talking about????

Well, our first two girls are 3 1/2 years apart, and that seemed to work out really well, because the oldest was mature enough to understand what was going on and not be jealous or feel displaced by the new baby, not to mention being able to play an active role in the pregnancy/birth/everyday care of her sister and even be old enough to remember it all.
This time around, however, we'll only have about 16 months between this new baby and our youngest. So far, it's actually been a lot easier than I would have imagined, probably because I feel like I've just done all the pregnancy stuff and nothing's really new or unexpected. Plus, with an almost-5-year-old and 1-year-old to look after the time really seems to fly by! ;) Obviously, the baby doesn't totally comprehend what's going on or anything (although she does point to/hug/kiss my belly and say baby - she loves babies LOL), but we'll see how it goes once her baby sister gets here (sometime in the next two weeks or so).
HTH somehow ;)
~Kelli
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Our first 2 boys are 18 months apart, and it seems close, but it is great, especially the older they get. They are each others playmate (and yes, they fight like crazy as well!) Now with our third boy, there is 2 1/2 years between him and my younger one. So at this point, we have a 4 year old, a 2 1/2 year old and a newborn at 2 weeks old.
As for me, I was the middle child growing up with 1 sister 2 years older than me and 1 brother 2 years younger than me. It seemed perfect because we were close enough in age, but not too close.
My sister-n-law has 2 boys, with 4 years difference and she loves her age gap between her two. I guess it all is what you are comfortable with and I feel you adjust to what you are given.
theresa
My boys are 6 and 3, 3 years and 3 weeks apart. I like this age difference, they're still close enough in age to play together (some days, lol) but yet at the same time the oldest one still looks out for the youngest one. We are planning on ttc next Spring and if all goes well then the next one will be almost 5 1/2 yrs younger than my youngest now. That will put my boys at ages 8 and 5, which is what we want. Then they are more independent and I can focus my attention on the baby during the day when they are both at school. We are also thinking about a 4th and if we do then I'd like the 2 youngest to be 3 yrs apart just like the 2 I have now. I think it would be tough to have 2 little ones so close in age. I know many do it, but it's not for me, lol. Although, dh is convinced we're having twin girls next time, lol.
Terra.
Mommy to Ethan Robert and Logan Ryley
I think that there are pros & cons to have closely spaced siblings.
My two youngest are only 18 months apart. When ds#3 was born, it was diffacult to give my little toddler everything he needed too, & tend to the baby. My oldest son was 4.5, & he was a bit more independent.
However, now that Justin & Matthew are 13 & 15, they're extreamly close. Billy (who is 18) is close w/both of them too, but there's not the same bond that there is between the really closely spaced two younger brothers. Do you see what I'm saying? It might be more diffacult when theyr'e younger if you have them really close together, but as they get into their school years, it might be better.
Hope this helps! :)
Quite by accident my first 2 DS ended up 18 months apart. It was hard in the beginning, although the older one became independent in some good ways pretty early on (i.e. feeding himself, getting his juice out of the fridge, fetching things for the baby, etc.) whereas my younger one is almost 3 and STILL wants me to feed him. But they are almost 3 and almost 4 1/2 now and play very nice together (yes, of course, and annoy each other) but definitely look out for one another and play with each other's friends.
Now this baby will be 3 years from my younger one and I think I will have jealously from the boys that I did not have the first time around because at 18months old, DS didn't know any better. But it should be easier up front because the boys will be old enough to do things on their own AND play together when I can't play with them. But it was hard enough in the beginning that I NEVER would have done 18 months again! Once is enough for that!
There is just over 2 years between my first 2 and they have always gotten along great (for siblings!!). She was too young when he came along to really be jealous.
Then again I also have nearly 16 & 14 years between 1, 2 & 3. They are REALLY beyond the jealousy stage!! LOL!! Actually they just love her to pieces...and as she gets older you can tell the feeling is mutual!!