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| Mon, 04-10-2006 - 9:09pm |
I am now 37 weeks (full term!). Throughout the pregnancy we've been calling the baby Josie. We finally decided on Josephine Margot as a name. But every now and then we toss out other ideas. Well, just this week my husband fixated on a name I liked a month ago (but he ignored)...Eliana. I no longer want to go with this name because (a) Elle names are very popular right now, (b) everyone is calling our baby "Josie", and (c) just seems like her name already.
Ideas on how to handle this?

Is the mn set to Margot?
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Did you explain all those things to him already? My DH kinda did the same thing with our first DD. The only girl name we both loved prior to getting pg was Madeline. We talked about a few other names, but just loved Madeline. I had a few doubts once I realized it was popular, but he was set on it, and I was happy with it, too. Then, when I was about 7 months pg, he changed his mind about the nn Maddie, and we started from scratch. I really wanted something that we both loved, so we started over and took a total of 3 names to the hospital (including Madeline). We ended up going with Megan Joy, and it suits her perfectly.
Do you still like Eliana at all? Would you consider taking both names to the hospital and seeing what fits best? Does he have any reasons for not liking Josephine/Josie? Could you go with Josephine Eliana or some other combo that might be a compromise?
I don't know what to tell you, but I thought I'd toss out a few ideas. Good luck figuring out what to do!
Stephanie
Thanks for all of the suggestions. I like the idea of bringing both names to the birth and seeing which suits her. And Josephine Eliana would be okay with me.
DH's concern is that when he tells people that we're thinking of the name Josephine they just smile and nod, but when he "test drives" Eliana they say "Oh what a beautiful name!" I understand what he means, it took me a little time to warm to Josephine myself but I love nn Josie!
Honestly, I didn't reply to the post right away but I've been thinking about it a bit and it seems that you could easily do both. You yourself said it took you a while to "warm" to Josephine, and that it seemed your dh was put off by people's reactions to the name, but that you loved the nn Josie. But nns can come from many places, often unrelated to the name itself. You could name her pretty much anything and still call her Josie as a term of endearment, especially considering you've been calling her that all along, before she's even been born. That, to me, is certainly enough reason to use the nn.
What I'm getting at is, if he seems to prefer Eliana and it's a name you'd liked anyway and wouldn't mind using, I'd probably go with that AND call her Josie as a nn. If it bothers you not having a connection to her actual name, you could even move Josephine to the mn slot and name her Eliana Josephine, in which case her nn would in fact come from her mn ... not all that unusual at all.
HTH ;)
~Kelli
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