I need help...

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-29-2003
I need help...
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Fri, 05-02-2008 - 2:10pm

First of all I'm not pregnant, but was discussing names with my BF (we've been together over a year). I have two children from a previous relationship (Jenessa - 8 and Isaiah - 6). Anyways, he likes the names


Stanley, Vincent, Byron and Charlotte for a girl


I absolutely hate them!


Also he doesn't understand why I would never use a name of someone in my past who I didn't care for. Example - Byron. The only Byron I know was an alcoholic who beat his wife/kids. Of course, I hate that name anyways, but even if I didn't I wouldn't use it for that fact.


Another thing he thinks it's okay to use a name that is already used in one of our families. I say no. My ex husbands family is huge and consists of 3 different step-families- there are so many kids/cousins with the same names, not to mention both of our families. I say we should have a name no one else has used.


One more thing is BF has a last name that can be picked on. I say the childs first name

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-09-2005
In reply to: joraemik
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 2:27pm
I might be a little annoyed too, but I wouldn't let it be an issue since you aren't pregnant. I'm sure when/if you are, he will come up with more than 4 names he likes and you will find something you agree on.


                             
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-18-2007
In reply to: joraemik
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 9:32pm

You have no deadline at this point.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-15-2007
In reply to: joraemik
Sat, 05-03-2008 - 5:51pm
I wouldn't even talk about names at this stage. It sounds like it just leads to arguments. Naming really brings out a lot of emotions, for whatever reasons.