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| Wed, 10-18-2006 - 6:50am |
Sorry in advance - this will be long. My husband parents are both Russian-born. The names we had picked our for our son were Nikolai, Alexander, or Sevastian(the Russian version of Sebastian). My husband's first choice was Nikolai, after his favorite uncle but I wasn't sure about using that as a first name. I didn't want to name him until I saw him. He pretty much left it up to me to decide. Our baby was born 10/11 by c-section at 1:31 p.m. I still wasn't sure if it should be Nikolai Alexander or Alexander Nikolai. After the baby was born and I was still very doped up on medication, the anesthesiologist asked me what his name would be. My husband was holding him, but I still couldn't see his face, but I blurted out Alexander Nikolai.
I spent three hours in recovery and didn't get to actually hold my baby until after 5:00 at which point his name had already been announced to my family and our minister. However, every time a nurse or anyone else called the baby Alexander, I cringed because I knew that didn't fit. but I was still on so much pain medication that I just went with it. Well, yesterday, my husband and I had a heart to heart and realized we both wish the baby's name was Nikolai Alexander. He is now a week old and I feel horrible. My husband called the hospital and they said it was easy to change the baby's name on his birth certificate and social security card, but I still feel horrible. His birth as Alexander Nikolai has already been announced in the paper and to our congregation at church, not to mention to all of our friends and family members. My parents and my sister both agree that he looks more like a Nikolai, but they have the same reservations about changing it. So, should we legally change his name, or should we just use his middle name. We will probably call him Nick. I need reassurance and guidance. Thank you for reading!

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Well just say to people that his name is Nikolai and not Alexander cause it suit him more.
Why must child be named
I think you need to do what you want to and don't worry about what people will say or what the paper has announced. It is your child and he should have the name you want him to. I think if it were me, I would change it - he is only a week old. You can always reissue an announcement and people will surely understand why you changed it. It will certainly make for an interesting story down the road :)
FYI - My middle name was changed 2 weeks later and I'm a perfectly well adjusted woman!
Good Luck
I agree - go ahead and change it.
Change it!
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