I need help!!!!!!

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Registered: 12-10-2004
I need help!!!!!!
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Wed, 10-18-2006 - 6:50am

Sorry in advance - this will be long. My husband parents are both Russian-born. The names we had picked our for our son were Nikolai, Alexander, or Sevastian(the Russian version of Sebastian). My husband's first choice was Nikolai, after his favorite uncle but I wasn't sure about using that as a first name. I didn't want to name him until I saw him. He pretty much left it up to me to decide. Our baby was born 10/11 by c-section at 1:31 p.m. I still wasn't sure if it should be Nikolai Alexander or Alexander Nikolai. After the baby was born and I was still very doped up on medication, the anesthesiologist asked me what his name would be. My husband was holding him, but I still couldn't see his face, but I blurted out Alexander Nikolai.

I spent three hours in recovery and didn't get to actually hold my baby until after 5:00 at which point his name had already been announced to my family and our minister. However, every time a nurse or anyone else called the baby Alexander, I cringed because I knew that didn't fit. but I was still on so much pain medication that I just went with it. Well, yesterday, my husband and I had a heart to heart and realized we both wish the baby's name was Nikolai Alexander. He is now a week old and I feel horrible. My husband called the hospital and they said it was easy to change the baby's name on his birth certificate and social security card, but I still feel horrible. His birth as Alexander Nikolai has already been announced in the paper and to our congregation at church, not to mention to all of our friends and family members. My parents and my sister both agree that he looks more like a Nikolai, but they have the same reservations about changing it. So, should we legally change his name, or should we just use his middle name. We will probably call him Nick. I need reassurance and guidance. Thank you for reading!

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Registered: 12-16-2004
In reply to: kbuckcc
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 7:55am

Well just say to people that his name is Nikolai and not Alexander cause it suit him more.


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Registered: 10-17-2006
In reply to: kbuckcc
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 8:16am

I think you need to do what you want to and don't worry about what people will say or what the paper has announced. It is your child and he should have the name you want him to. I think if it were me, I would change it - he is only a week old. You can always reissue an announcement and people will surely understand why you changed it. It will certainly make for an interesting story down the road :)

FYI - My middle name was changed 2 weeks later and I'm a perfectly well adjusted woman!

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Registered: 10-14-2005
In reply to: kbuckcc
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 8:55am
Change it! It's not your fault you had to make the decision before you were ready. Now that you know what fits, it's an easy change. I don't think people will give you a hard time at all. You're just swapping the order.



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Registered: 07-13-2004
In reply to: kbuckcc
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 9:40am
I would change it to what you and your DH feel his name should be. I know it doesn't feel like this situation will ever be funny...but in a few years...it will be. Changing it now is much better than "cringing" everytime someone says the wrong name!
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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: kbuckcc
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 10:23am

I agree - go ahead and change it.

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Registered: 09-26-2006
In reply to: kbuckcc
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 10:49am
I wouldn't hesitate to change it. People will get over the change (it has only been one week) and this will be his name for the rest of his life. It's an important decision that you shouldn't feel bad about making, especially since the hospital said a change would be easy to do.
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Registered: 10-17-2006
In reply to: kbuckcc
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 10:50am
I totally agree. Change it! I didn't have a name for a few days after my parents brought me home from the hospital, it seems like nothing they liked fit me. You probably don't think it is funny right now, but we joke about it all the time. It is a fun story for my parents and me to laugh about.
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Registered: 03-16-2006
In reply to: kbuckcc
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 12:01pm
i'd go ahead and change his name order. of course if you like, can call him by his middle name, but that's traditionally done when the same name as his father, etc. but, you all see Nikolai, i'd go with changing to Nikolai Alexander.
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Registered: 09-25-2006
In reply to: kbuckcc
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 12:30pm

Change it!

 
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Registered: 10-18-2006
In reply to: kbuckcc
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 5:54pm
Change it!! People probably won't even ask, they will assume it was just a mix up since it is just reverse of what was printed and announced. Hey, you can always blame the drugs! ;-)

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