I need help!!!!!!

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Registered: 12-10-2004
I need help!!!!!!
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Wed, 10-18-2006 - 6:50am

Sorry in advance - this will be long. My husband parents are both Russian-born. The names we had picked our for our son were Nikolai, Alexander, or Sevastian(the Russian version of Sebastian). My husband's first choice was Nikolai, after his favorite uncle but I wasn't sure about using that as a first name. I didn't want to name him until I saw him. He pretty much left it up to me to decide. Our baby was born 10/11 by c-section at 1:31 p.m. I still wasn't sure if it should be Nikolai Alexander or Alexander Nikolai. After the baby was born and I was still very doped up on medication, the anesthesiologist asked me what his name would be. My husband was holding him, but I still couldn't see his face, but I blurted out Alexander Nikolai.

I spent three hours in recovery and didn't get to actually hold my baby until after 5:00 at which point his name had already been announced to my family and our minister. However, every time a nurse or anyone else called the baby Alexander, I cringed because I knew that didn't fit. but I was still on so much pain medication that I just went with it. Well, yesterday, my husband and I had a heart to heart and realized we both wish the baby's name was Nikolai Alexander. He is now a week old and I feel horrible. My husband called the hospital and they said it was easy to change the baby's name on his birth certificate and social security card, but I still feel horrible. His birth as Alexander Nikolai has already been announced in the paper and to our congregation at church, not to mention to all of our friends and family members. My parents and my sister both agree that he looks more like a Nikolai, but they have the same reservations about changing it. So, should we legally change his name, or should we just use his middle name. We will probably call him Nick. I need reassurance and guidance. Thank you for reading!

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Registered: 05-29-2003
In reply to: kbuckcc
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 6:01pm
If he's only a week old and you are sure you want Nikolai to be his name, by all means change it. A week is nothing!
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Registered: 04-07-2003
In reply to: kbuckcc
Thu, 10-19-2006 - 12:04pm

hi-
i would absolutley change it! he is only a week old, and he should have the name that fits him.

fyi-i had a csection with my first and we didnt name her for 3 days while in the hospital, i just wanted to get to know her a little before we named her. a lot of people were saying "just name her already" but we didnt care- it is something she will have for the rest of her life.

i know 2 people who have had there name changed, they are both grown up now, and really just joke about it.

good luck and go with your heart.

alison

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Registered: 01-07-2004
In reply to: kbuckcc
Thu, 10-19-2006 - 1:46pm
hello!! if it was me-i would change it. you COULD just call him by his middle name-in my hubbys family-a good number go by their middle names-i actually thought their middle names were their actual names until they told me diffrent. but i couldnt figure out why they would do that-to me, i always think if you were just going to call the child by that name, why not just name them that in the first place?? your son is only a week old-its not too late-just ask the church to say that it was a mistake and his name is actually...like an oopsie. if youre not satisfied with your choice, then change it-its not too late-do it now before he gets too old and then confused...why didnt you just name me nikolai to begin with?? good luck!
joanne
maman2goons@aol.com

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