I think Ive dug myself a hole.....
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I think Ive dug myself a hole.....
| Wed, 10-03-2007 - 11:35pm |
So I'll make a long story short so you can see the hole I've dug....
My DH's ex was unfortunately pg when we met (3 years ago).

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Yeah, you might've beaten that horse a little too much for your own comfort. But that's the great thing about life...you can grow past your past. If people comment, just say "funny, huh?" and leave it at that.
That said, I like Carver well enough (prefer Carter, of course...no knives) and Mason for a boy, but find Masyn inestimably trendy...it's got the boy-name-on-girl thing going on, paired with swapping a y for a random letter. But you see that a lot, along with Emerson on girls, that I imagine it won't get too much of a funny look. Brighton is a little less heard, but still right in line with a lot of the trends, so I imagine that kind of familiarity would buffer the teasing.
I know what you mean about now liking the name someone liked. The thing is yes, while you and whoever may not like the name Carver, it really doesn't matter. His mother liked and she carried him so she can named him whatever she wants, now I think that she didn't talk to the childs father is another story. But in the END it is her decsion. The same goes for you. If you are in love with a name and everyone says oh that stupid or whatever it doesn't matter aslong as you and DH like it is all that matters. You'll never find a name EVERYONE likes.
Carver is not really my style, but it is so far from strange or weird or "crazy" that it's frankly hard for me to see where all the resistance and criticism came from.
The names I gave were mainly examples. But a few name I have said I liked I got the cocked eyebrow look.
It sounds like the tougher issue here is the way you feel about your past behaviour and fear of getting the same treatment.
This is a reply to atlcpl30s....
Totally off subject.
Thank you.
hello!! well first, i dont think carver is all that bad-i know a lil boy named carter and i love that name...and ive heard some doozy names where i go "where in the heck did you come up with that?? you must have hated your child to name them that!!" people are always going to have opinions-you cant do anything to change their minds. and a lot of times a name "grows" on people-my dad absolutely HATED the name i picked for my oldest dd-violet. he tried to get me to change my mind-he suggested a bunch of "car" names that screamed "stripper" to me(not trying to down anyones choices-i just dont like certain names-like everyone else i suppose)...but i didnt budge. when he first saw her in the hospital, he(and everyone else)knew she was a violet-the name fit her perfectly...and if anyone has an opinion about what you ultimately name your child, theyll get over it. and if anyone brings up the carver issue, you can just shrug and go "yeah well thats still not my style...but whatever..." and the just shrug it off. the important things to consider are:
do YOU love the name?
does SO love the name?
can you imagine a person with that name?
what "image" does the name make in your mind?
youll know you made the right choice when you look at that little person and say their name and realize that they wouldnt sound right as any other name. take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com
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