I wish men knew what it was like!
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I wish men knew what it was like!
| Sun, 11-11-2007 - 2:25pm |
I am pregnant due in January and have a 12 year old form another marriage and a 12 month old form hubby now. He expects me to be super women and I cant do it... I think our relationship is going to end over this next baby..I dont know if I can handle dealing with all the BS all the time. I wish there was a Mr.Right somewhere that actually knew a women and what they go threw with all the hormone BS we have to go threw being PG. I feel like we are pulling away from eachother and if it gets alittle more further then it will be to late to go back to a relationship again. We dont sleep together, eat together, talk, kiss...nothing! Soemtimes I wish I had someones elses life and could leave mine.

So sorry to hear the stress you are under - I know what it is like - running the house, the kids etc.. & pregnancy makes you tired & yes - cranky.
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Marriage *is* hard to be sure. Please keep in mind that if you ever did find a "dream husband" he also would have faults that you would see eventually. We all do! In fact, that was my initial reaction to your post -- in thinking about my own situation -- while my dh certainly has his shortcomings, *I* can be such a b*itch at times, too!
In 15 years of marriage, what I've come to is this: I cannot change my husband. It's not even my job to change my husband. Instead I've turned the focus back on myself: What can *I* do, what attitude do *I* need to adopt, what do *I* need to ignore, etc. instead of trying to get dh to conform to my wishes. I have found that the more I back off of him (just let go of all expectations, really), focus on myself, and am THANKFUL even if that's "in faith" sometimes, the better we do all around.
I'm not trying to heap the guilt onto your shoulders in the least. I'm just trying to say that there is a path that involves being released from expectations and frustrations in someone else. All this for me involves my faith -- trusting that as I follow God and the plan for marriage that He has described in the Bible, that He will take care of our marriage and my dh.
HTH.
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Wife to Neil since 1992
Mama to six chummy kids, with another due 04/08
Darla
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