Is it too late to change his nickname?

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Registered: 04-08-2004
Is it too late to change his nickname?
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Mon, 10-03-2005 - 4:50pm

Hi,


I have three kids, and my youngest, Tobias Wade, is 10 months. We tend to use nicknames for all our kids, and assumed we'd use the nickname Tobey for Tobias.

Amy, mom to Nate (9), Calvin (7), and Tobias (4). You can find me at my blogs:

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Registered: 06-25-2004
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 5:26pm
I can totally see why this is important - it's exactly the sort of thing I would obsess about :) I think Tobe is a really cool nn for Tobias, and if that's what he gets called, then you should officialize it. On the other hand, if he really is just Tobias, then I don't think you should force it just to make it fit with the other two names. Maybe just use the full name until something else definitely sticks? He'll probably get Toby once he gets to school anyway (and I think I slightly prefer that spelling, just because it's the one most people would automatically use.)
In any case, all of your boys have great names and they go really well together!
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Registered: 08-16-2005
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 5:50pm

Wow, lol i already have anxiety, and after reading all these posts, i cant even imagine how its gonna be when i have kids :) lol.
from my own experience watching my sisters grow up, i have a different view. When my middle sister was born, my parents named her Kathryn, with the nn of Katie. Once she was 2 tho, she decided that she was not Katie, she was kathryn. Ever since then, well until she was 16, she was Kathryn. Now, she's either Kat or kathryn. lol im pretty sure my parents felt all of us would go by nickames only, but i'm the only one who really does, out of Elizabeth (me- Lizzie), Kathryn, and Margaret. Call him what you want right now, Tobe sounds great :) and once he's older, he'll let you guys know what to call him, if he feels that that nickname isnt perfect.

Lizzie

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 7:50pm

I don't think it's too late. If I were you, I'd probably just start calling him by all his names -- Tobias, Tobe, and Toby/Tobey.

I have two dd's, and they go by a variety of nns. Megan is called Meg, Megabug, Buggy, etc., in addition to her full name, and at age 2, she responds to all of them. Julianna is 10 months old, and we call her by her full name, Annie, Juli, Juli Loolie, Annie banannie, etc. ;-) We actually decided that Julianna would be called Annie, at least while she was little, but she responds more readily to Julianna (although she also responds to Annie).

Anyway, I think you can easily use a variety of nicknames, and he'll learn them all. Plus, Tobe, Toby, and Tobias all start the same way, so it's not like they're completely different. I also think that if you really wanted to, you could ease him into Wade by calling him Tobias Wade or Toby Wade some of the time and then just shortening that to Wade.

Oh, and the only association I have with Toby is my SIL's dog, which doesn't help you at all, but I don't see it as a feminine name no matter how you spell it. :-)

Love all your kids' names, by the way!