You probably haven't seen all of the baby name books out there--I know I haven't--and that's okay--a lot of them are a mish-mash of made-up spellings and made-up meanings. Since you've found a name you like, you don't really need to keep looking.
I was a geek growing up, and I caught a lot of flack. And I don't think it was because the bullies had low self-esteem--I saw them at my class reunion and they still seemed as comfortable in their own skins as ever. (Fortunately, I developed that ability over the years, myself.) Kids don't have the same response to the wounded that a healthy adult has--empathy takes time to develop. And tact is pretty much unheard of. So it's not even always about arming the bullies--it's about normal kids, too. We tend to oversimplify with "that kid said something mean--he's a bully" and that bullies aren't raised properly. I don't really think it's that simple. For one thing, I don't think there are really that many true bullies out there--I was the class geek, the one with my head in the clouds and I once in a while said something nasty to another kid who was fat (I still cringe at that memory,) but I was also the one rescuing injured baby birds and standing up for my friend with the Coke-bottle glasses. For another, parents try--they can try really hard and not have it sink in. And sometimes kids tease because it's fun and it's what they see on TV every darn day. (I mean, seriously, is there any other kind of humor beyond insults on sitcoms any more?) I don't think the kids who bullied me were monsters--they were kids, messing up the way kids do. Did they need correction? Sure, but it's not like most kids go home and say "hey, Mom, today I called the ugly girl a dog."
I like unique names--my son has one, not a single name we consider using as a first name even shows up in the Social Security actuary charts. But there's a line between unique and insulting--just ask my old classmates Trampis and Shewonderful. Unique, sure...but careless. It's like the difference between Canaan and Kanine--one is an attractive name; the other sets the kid up for a lifetime of funny looks, confusion and a huge hope that they never go to vet school.
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Well, thanks for the correction.
I have been paying attention to K names as my dh is fond of them.
You probably haven't seen all of the baby name books out there--I know I haven't--and that's okay--a lot of them are a mish-mash of made-up spellings and made-up meanings. Since you've found a name you like, you don't really need to keep looking.
I was a geek growing up, and I caught a lot of flack. And I don't think it was because the bullies had low self-esteem--I saw them at my class reunion and they still seemed as comfortable in their own skins as ever. (Fortunately, I developed that ability over the years, myself.) Kids don't have the same response to the wounded that a healthy adult has--empathy takes time to develop. And tact is pretty much unheard of. So it's not even always about arming the bullies--it's about normal kids, too. We tend to oversimplify with "that kid said something mean--he's a bully" and that bullies aren't raised properly. I don't really think it's that simple. For one thing, I don't think there are really that many true bullies out there--I was the class geek, the one with my head in the clouds and I once in a while said something nasty to another kid who was fat (I still cringe at that memory,) but I was also the one rescuing injured baby birds and standing up for my friend with the Coke-bottle glasses. For another, parents try--they can try really hard and not have it sink in. And sometimes kids tease because it's fun and it's what they see on TV every darn day. (I mean, seriously, is there any other kind of humor beyond insults on sitcoms any more?) I don't think the kids who bullied me were monsters--they were kids, messing up the way kids do. Did they need correction? Sure, but it's not like most kids go home and say "hey, Mom, today I called the ugly girl a dog."
I like unique names--my son has one, not a single name we consider using as a first name even shows up in the Social Security actuary charts. But there's a line between unique and insulting--just ask my old classmates Trampis and Shewonderful. Unique, sure...but careless. It's like the difference between Canaan and Kanine--one is an attractive name; the other sets the kid up for a lifetime of funny looks, confusion and a huge hope that they never go to vet school.
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