Local Hospital Births

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Registered: 09-29-2005
Local Hospital Births
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Wed, 02-14-2007 - 4:07pm

Here are the newest local arrivals from the past month or so. ;)

Avery Jane
Carmine Gregory
Catalina Dulce Ana-Marie
Justin Sukjai (parents' comments say Sukjai is the Thai word for "rejoice")
Kaira Rayne
Lilly Grace
Austin Todd
Michael Truman
Jaden Tyler (the baby born just before him, on the previous list I posted last month, was Jadin Manuel)
Elijah W. (W. is not the ln initial ... it's listed as his full mn)
Anelisa Sophia
Domenic Armondo

Enjoy! ;)


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Registered: 09-29-2005
Thu, 02-15-2007 - 7:40pm

I'm sorry you were offended, but generally non-personal posts such as this allow people to offer truly honest thoughts or opinions they might not otherwise express. For example, the person who's comment offended you is extremely polite and sensitive to others in her posts to them, and might not even reply to someone asking for opinions on the name Avery for a girl. That's true of many of us here.

Therefore, it's actually quite positive that any drawbacks of a name be pointed out in a forum such as this. It gives people the opportunity to see how a name they're thinking about REALLY comes across to others, without the boundaries that would normally limit comments addressed to the actual person considering it.

To be quite honest, I don't mind Avery on a girl in the least, and I love it for a boy. However, someone who's only recently heard the name might find it helpful to know that it is, in fact, a traditionally masculine name (if considering it for a girl) or that it is being used for girls at all (if they like it for a son).

Obviously, anyone here might unintentionally hurt someone else's feelings with their honest reaction to a name. After all, we don't know the names of every child/husband/grandmother connected to our fellow members. But since this is a baby names message board, that's bound to happen. If you simply don't comment on names you don't like, the forum ceases to exist. Anyone can smile and nod and say the names you're considering are "nice." It doesn't make it true. Getting honest thoughts and feedback is the entire point.


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Thu, 02-15-2007 - 8:16pm

Thank you for your post. I must point out though: I never said that people shouldn't comment on names they don't like, or just smile and pretend all names posted here are "nice." I absolutely see the value in getting positive and negative feedback on names. If someone thinks Avery is a better name for a boy, then say, "Avery is not my style for a girl -- I like it better for a boy." Nothing offensive about that -- it's just an opinion for consideration. There are kind and constructive ways of expressing opinions effectively. Saying "ugggggh! Avery is a BOY's name!! (LOL, personal little rant there)" is neither kind nor constructive.

I believe the purpose of a site like this is to allow people to share a wide variety of honest opinions and thoughts -- but insults truly have no place. (This also goes along with people saying certain names are trashy, trailer park, etc. which is an issue that has been brought up a few times.)

And though the person who made the original comment might not respond to a specific post about the name Avery for a girl... that doesn't really matter. Her opinion about the name was still expressed in a negative manner for all to read. I, a frequent visitor with a daughter named Avery, happened to come across her post and it struck a cord. If this poster is polite and sensitive to some, as you pointed out, my question is: why not be polite and sensitive to all?

I appreciate your input and hope we can all just move on from here!
Best,
Maria

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Registered: 09-29-2005
Thu, 02-15-2007 - 8:43pm

I see your point. I will admit, I hardly even noticed the "uggggh," which I'm guessing is what most offended. It's so hard to convey small exclamations like that, I take it as more a "sigh" of exasperation rather than akin to "Ewwwww, that's disgusting!" KWIM?

The statement that Avery is a masculine name is true, just as those who like names like Finley or Elliott for their dd's realize they are traditionally masculine names. That's generally the very reason they appeal to those parents, who often comment on wanting a "strong" name for their dds. And there's nothing wrong with that. ;)

It really was a harmless statement. If it's offensive, it would be equally so for someone with a son named Avery to hear a comment about how "pretty and feminine" it is for a girl, and that's just not the case. That would be the opinion of that individual, and in no way aimed at any little boys named Avery. Just as the statement that Avery is a masculine name is just that -- a statement of fact. Nothing to be offended about. I'm sure you were aware of that going in (and if not, wouldn't you have liked to be?). It doesn't alter your love for your dd or her name ... if anything, it seems to enforce it.


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