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| Fri, 09-24-2004 - 1:52pm |
We had a son die last year. His name was Ian. I am pregnant again and would really like to incorporate his name into this new child's name. If it's a boy, I may choose Ian as a middle name. But that won't work with a girl. So I am trying to find names that have "ian" in them. Such as Jillian or Lillian. My last name starts with L so I think Lillian will be too L-ly. And I'm really not wanting a J name, therefore I'm looking for other ideas. Different is ok. But not so different that it's weird. ;)
I have tried searching baby name sites, but the closest I could find is where you could look for a name ending in or beginning with. So if the "ian" was in the middle of the name, I couldn't do a search.
Thanks for your help.
Connie

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Brianna, Lianna, Rhianna.
I truly sympathize with you on losing a child, but in all honesty I don't think it's exactly fair to the new child to have to honor that child with their own name. Unforunately it could be taken as the new child replacing the deceased child and that child can't be replaced of course.
I would advise you not to do what you're planning, but of course, only you know what's really right for you.
I think giving a boy the middle name Ian is really not a good idea.
if it weren't for boys names starting with I being so rare, I'd say just give the child the same initials that Ian had, but other I names are really difficult to come by.
good luck to you on a safe delivery and healthy child with this baby.
Is Ian a bad middle name because it's my dead child's name? Or do you just not like Ian? Is something wrong with Zachary Ian Smith? WTF?
I read your response to another person about giving them a family name and how wrong that was. Well, I think you are wrong. WRONG WRONG WRONG.
I advise you not to give others advice anymore.
I will try to find help somewhere else where people are more sensitive to others. I rarely post on parentplace boards anymore simply because there are so many people with weird ideas that they are right on topics of their choice and I chose not to get caught up in petty little fights. I just couldn't help myself on this post. But lesson learned. Ask friends, not total strangers.
One idea I had was to go to www.babynamer.com - it is my favorite baby name site - you can look up Jillian or Lillian and then click on "Similar" - it will show you names that are similar - possibly others with the "ian" ending? I was trying to do it for you but the site wouldn't come up for some reason.
Ideas off the top of my head:
Eliana (God has answered me)
Marian
Marianna
or Miriam -which means "bitter" - for the bittersweet blessing this baby will be
Blessings,
Carrie
Here's what I came up with:
Julianne
Juliana
Liliana
Liana
Mariana
Marianne
Rhianna
Rhiannon
Triana
Triannon
Tiana
Tatiana
Gianna
Gloriana
Oriana
Ariana
Loriana
Eriana
Adrian
Adriana
Adrianne
Kiana
Briana
Sabriana
Iliana
Eliana
Aliana
Aliciana
Alisiana
Georgiana
Shianna
Diana
Kariann
Geriann
Sheriann
Carianna
Garianna
Sianna
Bianca
Viana
Viviana
Vivian
Doriana
Louisiana
Indiana
HTH,
Ali
But I really like Adriana and Ariana. Will have to run those by dh. My daughter's name is Julia, otherwise I'd like Juliana (which was almost her name anyway). I also like Liana or Liane/Lianne. I have only seen it spelled Leanne - I like the other version.
Thanks.
Maybe it should work but i don't like naming Childern after deceased siblings.
A dear freind to my family discovered that before her, her parents had had a daughter by the name of Ylva Maria , the same name she had, the baby girl had died at 3 years old.
She had found Ylva Maria Photo album that ended at 3 years old and some of the Photos look like hers in hers photoalbum.
Really sick, the girl changed her name to Alva after that.
Hug Fru Trygg
Hi, I read your post and had to respond. I had a daughter die in 2002. I know how it feels and how sad you must be. Even 2 years later - I miss my daughter like crazy. As for the name - I think you should use Ian as a possible sons middle name. My daughters name is Brianna Rae. If I would have been pregnant with a boy his name would have been William Raymond. It turns out I am pregnant with a girl. Her middle name will be Bernice - B for Brianna, and Bernice for my grandmother who passed away when I was a kid. As for "Ian" type names for girls - there is always Arianna, Brianna, I especially like Eliana. Good Luck naming your baby. Remember as you read these posts from people - they are entitled to their own ideas. Unless they have lost a child they can not understand the pain, and suffering we go through. I think it is perfectly acceptable to name your new baby honoring your deceased child. It is not like you are giving the baby the same exact name as the other child!
Good Luck with this pregnancy and finding the perfect name for your baby!
Karyn
be thankful that you have another love coming into your life. i know it is hard not to worry about how your child will be treated concerning their name but, i don't think you should you should stress yourself out. why can't you give a girl the middle name Ian? if that is what you want- do it!!! i'm sure any boy would be honored to be named after his big brother he never knew. by the time he is old enough to ask about it he ewill be old enough to be told why his brother is gone from you.
as for a little girl, i think you will figure out a name to tie Ian, by the time you have this baby. i would do the same thing in your situation. i tried to incorporate my grandmothers names with my kids. i did my best.
good luck, kelly
I am so sorry for the loss of your son. I think it would be a wonderful honor to name his sibling in his honor. Many religions do this, and I think it would be a tribute that your child would like. It's not like you're giving this next child the exact same name!!
Jillian is one of my favorite names. I also like the idea of using the "ian" in the middle of a name. Julian is also an option for a boy. Another idea is using the same meaning. We used the meaning of my Aunt's name, and found a name with the same meaning. It's wonderful that their names are united by that strong connection.
Hannah
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