Namers Remorse

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-24-2006
Namers Remorse
17
Sun, 02-17-2008 - 8:04am

Hello all :) As my tile says I think I may have namers remorse. My 1 year old son's name is Aidan Stefan James (Last name). I LOVE the name and the spelling. I love the fact that it is Irish and where I live in Canada has not become too popular yet. But yet is the key word. I am afraid that it will and he will be one of many Aidan's in his class. I have an Emily and she is referred to as Emily Mur. as there is 2 other Emily's with M last names in her class. As well, I am concerned about the first 2 names ending with the "n" sound and not flowing well. I also don't know if it fits with the flow of my other children's names. That is the thing.....there is nothing common to bring the sibling names together.

I have an Emily Rose Brigitte - very common first 2 names and a weird spelling of the 2nd middle name.

Justin Patrick - pretty plain

Kyle Joseph - again pretty plain and for some reason the 1st 2 boys only got 1 middle name

Gillian Patricia Louise - a variation of Jillian the more common spelling.....tried to spice it up, plus I don't care for the nn Jill, no offense to any Jills....just not my style.

and then there is Aidan Stefan James. His name is bit trendier. I have to say that "I love all my children's names" I spend a great deal of time picking them out and they have a lot of meaning. Whether they are spelled in a family tradition or another member's name, they all were not chosen lightly.

I just thought I would put this all out there for someone to comment on and see what feedback I would get. I have no plan on changing his name.....just curious. Thanks in advance.

Heidi

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2008
In reply to: ejkg2b5
Sun, 02-17-2008 - 12:49pm

I don't think any of the things you mentioned are things that you really need to dwell on. You love the name Aidan and it has special meaning for you and I'm sure that it probably fits perfectly with your son. The repeated "n"s on his first two names are a little bit awkward but really, how often are all of those names going to be used? Mostly he'll just be Aidan (lastname) and I think that flow is the one that matters the most. And also I think his name flows just fine with those of his siblings - they aren't matchy matchy or anything, but that is probably for the best. They both have similar sounds in terms of commonality and spellings, so I think the similarity is there.

So - bottom line - you shouldn't have namers remorse! The name works for your family and that is what matters :)

Photobucket
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-02-2005
In reply to: ejkg2b5
Sun, 02-17-2008 - 2:53pm

I think you are focusing way too much on current trends, and popularity of a name. You said you love each of your kids' names, and they all have a lot of meaning. That's the only thing that matters!


You might be bothered that Emily is one of multiple kids with that name in her class, but does it bother HER? If so, she has the option of going by Rose or Brigitte, or even Emily Rose, as a double name. Brigitte isn't even a "weird" spelling; it's the French spelling! Remember Brigitte Bardot?


Justin Patrick isn't plain at all. It's classic and handsome; I like it a lot, actually! The same goes for Kyle Joseph.


Gillian Patricia Louise is just beautiful. You're right in saying Jillian is the more common spelling, but Gillian is actually the traditional way to spell the name; Jillian is the variation.


As for Aidan, there's a reason the name has become so popular! It's a handsome, solid Irish name. I like Stefan with it, as it's much more unexpected a middle name after Aidan. You don't hear it often, either. If it turns out later, that there ARE a lot of Aidan's in his classes, and that bothers him, he has the same options as Emily. He can choose to go by either Stefan or James, instead. Problem solved!


Avatar for dr_kae
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: ejkg2b5
Sun, 02-17-2008 - 11:52pm
I think...and I know it's easy to second-guess yourself...that you did a great job choosing Aidan's name and that, if his name wasn't the blockbuster in Canada last year that it was here, don't worry about it. You can only work with the information you have at hand at the time you make your decision...although parenthood sometimes seems to require amazing psychic powers, I have yet to meet the parent who actually HAS amazing psychic powers. If his name takes off up there in the next few years, take comfort in this: you were at the FRONT of the pack.

<Photobucket
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-24-2006
In reply to: ejkg2b5
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 5:11am

Thank you all for your wonderful words. I guess I just needed to hear it from someone else :) He was actually suppose to be Gabriel, but when he was born....I just couldn't do it. Went through a similar situation with my son Kyle.....He was suppose to be Nathan David Alexander......and my Daughter Emily was suppose to be Chelsea Marie Elizabeth........it is weird that once I saw them, changed my mind and couldn't go through with it. I have always 2nd guessed myself. I think know I will be able to put this all to rest.

In the end I am hooked on names. After having 5 kids and pretty much happy with our family this size....I still secretly have name list for future children. Just glad I found this board.....msg therapy I will call it lol. Thanks again everyone.

Heidi

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2005
In reply to: ejkg2b5
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 6:35pm

I hear you on the names thing - we are probably done after two girls (and it's me that doesn't want more, not DH), but I still find myself thinking of other names.

dots.jpg picture by smallishthings
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-24-2006
In reply to: ejkg2b5
Tue, 02-19-2008 - 3:58am

Thank you very much. You are right. I am happy and I just need to keep telling myself that. Names are so important, it is easy to 2nd guess yourself.

Heidi

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2008
In reply to: ejkg2b5
Tue, 02-26-2008 - 9:44am

I think that Aidan is a cool name. If there was a lot of thought behind choosing his name, that's all that matters.


We have 2 sons. Our first is named Brandon and of course we all know that tons of guys have that name. I had him in 1985. I got his name from an outdoor magazine. I thought that it sounded like a rugged outdoorsy guy. He is 6"3" and about 220. So, he fits his name. O.k., our youngest son's name is Cassidy. We had no idea that girls had that name too. Unfortunately, Kathy Lee named her daughter Cassidy and guess what? I didn't watch the show. I believe her daughter is the same age as our son(13-1994). My husband picked out the name Cassidy. It's in ref. to a Grateful Dead song. It has great meaning to his name. My husband felt it in his heart to name our son Cassidy and I thought that it was a really cool name. Matter of fact, I didn't even think that a girl would have the name. So, now our son is still getting teased about his name. I feel bad but I think he completely lives the name out. I thought again of a rugged and strong guy when I heard the name and he is. He is 5'9" and strong. His name means clever. It totally fits. All I can say is if you feel it in your heart then you should not worry. You gave him that name for a reason.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-23-2008
In reply to: ejkg2b5
Tue, 02-26-2008 - 9:55am
When my mother named me my name was uncommon. it took almost 18yrs for me to start hearing mothers yelling at their kids in super markets with my name. The good things is that so far I have yet to come across anyone who spells it the way my mom did- Kasaundra or Kassie. I say if you like a name and it has a special meaning to you, then you should use it regardless of what the trends are and what other say to you.
babies

<a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://bd.lilypie.com/QmlCm5.png" alt="Lilypie Expecting a baby Ticker" border="0" 

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-2007
In reply to: ejkg2b5
Tue, 02-26-2008 - 11:44am
My brother and SIL just named their newborn Aidan.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2008
In reply to: ejkg2b5
Tue, 02-26-2008 - 12:12pm
Don't fret, even if there are a million Aiden's in his class. I have a son with an unusual name too. There are upsides and down. The upside is.....he has an unusual name (josiah). The down side is no one can say it correctly. He usually gets called josias, joziah, hosiah, joseph, joshua....anything but his name. Aiden is a very nice name, it is a good strong name for a boy to grow into. On top of all of that - nobody anywhere can say they have an Aiden who is just like yours - there is only one of him.

Pages