need advice

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Registered: 05-10-2005
need advice
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Tue, 05-10-2005 - 6:37pm
i am 23 years old and i have 3 beautiful girls age 4-2-and a 7 month old and yesterday i found out that i am pregant i dont know if i should be happy or sad but i just need some advice i dont know if i should keep what do u girls think
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Registered: 04-03-2003
In reply to: robbinswife
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 11:06pm
It sounds like you have a lovely family. Congratulations on this new blessing! I think that it is normal to feel shocked at first and overwhelmed, especially given the fact that you have such a young baby. I would encourgae you to reflect on your previous pregnancies and how each of your children has changed and blessed your life. Don't be afraid to admit to those closest to you that your are feeling overnwhelmed and uncertain. Everyone needs help sometimes and you can't be scared to ask for it. You may need to make some considerable changes in your life to accomodate this new arrival, but you have some time until the baby comes. You will be in my prayers!
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Registered: 08-03-2004
In reply to: robbinswife
Wed, 05-11-2005 - 9:57am
Congrats!! It sounds like you may be feeling a little overwhelmed with a 4th on the way? I think God gives for a reason and the new baby is a blessing. If you are unable to keep the baby, my advise is to give to a family that isn't as blessed as you. I know that is a difficult task, and I hope you can keep your baby. Remember though, it is up to you and the father...do what you feel is right in your heart. (((HUGS)))


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Registered: 05-11-2005
In reply to: robbinswife
Wed, 05-11-2005 - 4:14pm

First of all, nobody really knows what's right for you, but you, so I know that I cannot give you PERFECT advice. If it was me, I would be extremely happy, but I lost two babies before I finally got Noel. One of them was a tubal pregnancy, almost 8 years ago. I still mourn for my lost children. Sit back and relax, and weigh out your pros and cons, of having another child in your blessed family. Would it be another mouth to feed, or more love in a house that is overflowing.

If you find that you feel that you don't want to raise another child, contact an adoption agency, in your area. Give someone else, who cannot achieve this dream themselves, a chance to experience the joy you feel of coming home to the pitter-patter of little feet. Most couples, who are eager to adopt, will also offer to pay any medical bills you may incur.

I'm sorry if I didn't help, much, I don't believe in abortion so I cannot encourage it. I still don't speak to a sister who had an abortion, because she was afraid she might miss some really good parties.

Whatever decision you make has to be the right one for you, and your family.

Good Luck.