Need advice-name dilema
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| Fri, 03-04-2005 - 11:29pm |
I've posted on here a while back about this, but I'm still having trouble. I am expecting #3 and am having so much trouble finding names I love. Well, sort of. Here's the story. I'll give you the short version-When I was pg w/ #2, so was my friend. We shared baby names, and I told ger that if it was a boy it would w/o a doubt be Ethan. I have had that in my head for years. So, I had a girl. She had a boy, whom she named Connor, then the day after he was born, changed it to Ethan. I was so mad. It may sound silly, but I kinda feel like she "stole" the name from me. Anyhow, no matter how hard I try, I cannot come up with any other name I love. I keep coming back to Ethan. That friend and I have since drifted apart, we speak maybe once a month. But is that name off limits to me now? I just keep coming back to it.
What do you all think? I need advice!! Not even sure DH will go for itnow since she has used it, but I want to use it......thoughts?
TIA!
Kate/
#3 EDD 8/22/05

Well, they say that imitation is the highest form of flattery, but HOW DARE SHE DO THAT TO YOU???!!! That is the cardinal rule of friendship...well one of them anyway. No good girlfriend steals her friend's baby name! In my opinion, the name was yours to begin with, so absolutely name your son Ethan. It's a great name, too.
I've loved the name Caroline for years and years...since long before it was so popular...and I don't care if every woman in my family and my next door neighbor all have girls named Caroline, I'm still going to use it. Go for it, especially if you think you'll always regret it if you don't.
What are your other children's names, by the way?
Anyhow, thanks for your thoughts!
Hope this helps
~ellie
No way! You had dibs on the name, it's still yours! LOL! Go ahead and use it. If she's mad, then, well, I guess she'll know how you felt when she stole it from you!
All kidding aside, I do believe if you have loved a name for a long time, you should be able to use it, unless perhaps one of your siblings has already used it on one of their children (and perhaps it's ok even then.) I think in this situation you are fine. Try not to let it bother you that she has used the name on her child. If people ask about it, you can tell them that you've loved the name for a long time and were planning to use it had your daughter been a boy, as your friend is aware.
Good luck!
:) Cara