Need a little help

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Registered: 06-23-2004
Need a little help
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Wed, 09-15-2004 - 1:00pm
I need a little help, my husband and I are expecting our 3rd child in January and are having a very difficult time choosing a name for our little boy to be. We both are choosing names that the other one is not to fond of (actually he's ok with mine but I can't stand his) He finaly agreed to Andrew for the first name (my choice) if I would agree to Clayton as a middle name (his choice). Now I have to admit this is much better than his first choice (Bodiciphius.... yes I know I hated it too he is convinced this is a real name) but I am still not real fond of his second choice (Clayton). What would you do, do I give in (to Clayton) or keep trying to get another name?
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Wed, 09-15-2004 - 1:11pm
Well, I'd say if you can live with it as a middle name, you should give in. After all, you got the first name (which is more important anyway, right?). :) Plus, it doesn't sound all that bad with Andrew (and sounds much better than Bodiciphius, I'm sure you don't mind my saying lol).

That's kind of what we did, because my husband left the first name choice up to me (after we had narrowed it down to a few names we both could live with), and I then let him pick the middle name (after the same narrowing ... although he ended up picking a middle name he had removed from the list a few weeks ago lol - guess it grew on him).

Anyway, not many people will know the middle name besides you (at least not after the initial baby announcements are out), so if you can go with a compromise that makes you both happy, you should do it. Everyone will just call him Andrew anyway. :)

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Registered: 06-14-2003
Wed, 09-15-2004 - 2:36pm
First, I don't think Clayton is a bad name for a mn. What I would do if you really hate it, tho, (& what I did for baby #4) is agree to the mn but keep searching for & subtly suggesting other mns in hopes that maybe he'll find something else he likes. It worked for me.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 09-15-2004 - 4:35pm
You still have plenty of time. Put Andrew Clayton on the backburner for now. Leisurely search for others possibilities and suggest them to husband one or two at the time spread over a few weeks. Since he is stuck on Clayton, I wouldn't blast him with bunches of other names right now. Eventually, you will probably hit on a combo you both really like. This worked for us finally...when she was 48 hours old and still un-named...like I said you still have some time. And by the way, Andrew Clayton IS a nice name. Also, I've found that most men WON'T argue if you come up with a name that is after someone special---so this might be a possibility.

Here are a few similar combos that you might like better and could slowly warm him up to- Andrew Carson, Andrew Colton, Andrew Caden---Keep us posted! Take care, Ginger

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Registered: 08-30-2003
Wed, 09-15-2004 - 4:51pm
ITA! It isn't decided until its written on the birth certificate - just call it hte 'front runner' and keep looking! :)

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Registered: 04-30-2004
Wed, 09-15-2004 - 9:39pm


It's a fine name but it wouldn't be on my list. KWIM? I would be able to tolerate just plain Clay as a middle name better. But if it will help Andrew Clayton and Andrew Clay for that matter both remind me of Andrew Dice Clay. Wonder if your DH considered that?
Peggy