Please help my name my new baby girl!!

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Please help my name my new baby girl!!
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Mon, 08-13-2007 - 7:55am

Hi everyone! I'm a long time PP member, and I'm 22 weeks pregnant with my third (and last) child!! I'm having such a hard time naming this one - not because I can't come up with a good name, but because my dh just doesn't like the one name I LOVE for our new little girl!!! I have completely fallen in love with the name Rayna Madison for her, but for some reason, my dh just doesn't like Rayna!!! I'm so bummed because I love it, and it just seems to fit her! It feels right, kwim?? But he just won't come around! So I've been really down about it, because every other name he suggests, I just don't like, and he thinks I'm just being difficult!!! Ugh!!

Anyway - I just came up with a name I hadn't seen before (we like unusual names that you don't see coming and going), and I wanted to see what you guys thought about it. What do you think of the name Rilyn for a girl??? I love the Y in a girls' name - my dd's name is Taryn, and I just love that. So I thought Rilyn (as opposed to Rylan which seemed a bit more masculine) looked pretty for a girl's name. (fyi - my son's name is Ethan - so I thought Ethan, Taryn and Rilyn sounded nice together) I was thinking of Rylie, but it seems so overused these days - I see them all over. (When we named my son Ethan back in 1998, it wasn't all that popular - now it's one of the hottest baby names around!! There aren't alot of 9 year olds with the name where I live in NY, but there are a TON of new babies with that name! LOL)

Anyway - what do you think of Rilyn? I was thinking maybe Rilyn Marisa, or Rilyn Malorie or Rilyn Mikayla (I'm Jewish, and I like to use the initials of relatives who have passed away to name children after. The R is for my Great Grandmother Ray, and the M is for my dh's Grandmother Mitzi)

Thanks for the input - I'm really going nuts with this!!!

-Barri (Mommy to 9 yr old Ethan Spencer, 5 yr old Taryn Samantha & Rilyn Marisa? due 12/16)

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Tue, 08-14-2007 - 9:25pm

Its okay. Not my style but I can see it working. If you don't love it don't use it. I really like the other posters suggestiong of Reed/Reid for a girl. I can so see that working. As for convincing your DH do what a good friend of mine did. She told her DH the name she liked, he was not sold. So she just didn't talk about any names until the baby was born she told him that she loved the name, and she can't see her DD named anything else, pretty much used the same arguments she had before she gave birth but her DH agreed to it right there. LOL. I guess she got the sympathy vote from him but hey it worked.


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Wed, 08-15-2007 - 1:13am

I'm into unique names, too. My son has three of them, actually, and hardly any name on my list shows up on the Social Security charts anywhere. I was just explaining why I didn't like it (that misspelling is equated with femininity--a huge pet peeve of mine and growing in frequency as people genderswitch names more often)...I like explanations.

As far as getting your husband to like a name you like...well, I find setting it aside for a few weeks and bringing it up really, really casually. With guys, the more you dig your heels in, the more they will. Everything becomes a competition. So, if you step back and let off the pressure, they let down their guard. And then, if it happens to come up (look on IMDB and see if there's a movie with a Rayna/Reina as a heroine and rent it) in conversation, he might just think it was HIS idea.

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Wed, 08-15-2007 - 10:44am

Rylan Marisa seems perfectly appropriate for your family! Though you didn't ask for it, I too encourage you to consider the more traditional spelling to simplify your child's life.


It's very difficult, isn't it, and sometimes heart-breaking to let go of a name you really love...Your strong attachment to Rayna is going to make it hard for you to warm up to anything else! My husband scratched all my long-loved names. My solution was to keep searching. We did find a name we both love, even if I was beginning to think we wouldn't! :)


One suggestion might be to switch the initials to M.R. Perhaps he would go for Rayna as the mn and you could look for an M- name you both like. At least you would get to use the name.


Possibilities that come to mind with Ethan Spencer and Taryn Samantha are


Maegan Rayna


Morrigan Rayna


Marlowe Rayna


Mabry Rayna


Madigan Rayna


Mylan Rayna


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Wed, 08-15-2007 - 12:15pm
You may have already answered this, but what is it about the name he doesn't like? The sound or the spelling or both?
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Wed, 08-15-2007 - 1:29pm
u should name ur kid sharpay madison! thats hot!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Wed, 08-15-2007 - 6:51pm

I wish I reallly knew!!! First he said he didn't like the "uh" sound at the end. Then he suggested the name Shayna (a name I've always loved, but that my close girlfriend used for her dd, so I wouldn't use it. Plus I don't need an S name), so I called him on the "uh" issue, and he admitted that was a weak argument. Then he said there was a (his words!!) "rather large african american woman" who used to work at his office that he didn't really like, and she had that name (different spelling), so he had a bad association with the name. That annoys me to no end - I mean, it's one thing if he had a real horrible relationship with someone he fought with or something, but this is a very brief encounter with this women, who isn't even in the picture anymore. I'd never even heard of her until now!!! He even admitted it was a pretty name!!! UGH!!!!! I HAVE to get him to change his mind because I'm miserable about having to give up that name - I feel like it is already her name, kwim?? I mean, if it was his ex girlfriend or something, I'd understand better!~! But this just seems too random to me!!! I explained to him that in time, the association would change because he would just see his beautiful baby daughter, and not the "large african american woman" when he said the name!!! I just can't wrap my brain around any other name.

Someone else suggested using an M name as the first name and Rayna as the middle name - I think that would devestate me more because I wouldn't really get to use Rayna, and it would always bug me that I comprimised on it!! I realize I'm being stubborn, and I should just cross it off the list and move on. But I've tried, and no other names are appealing to me AT ALL!!!!!

-Barri ;-) (thanks so much for all your support - you and everyone else here have been so great!!)

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Wed, 08-15-2007 - 8:42pm

I like Rayna.

 

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Thu, 09-13-2007 - 10:49am

No wonder you love Rayna, it is close enough to your greatgrandmas name. I think that Rowan might work since it would go with the other kids names without you too easily calling the wrong name.

I hope that you find the name that you both love.
fyi,
if it helps you let go of Rayna any, I have a cousin that is named Rayna.
When she was growing up EVERYONE called her Rainy and Rainy days.
And to make it worse now people call her Ray or Ray Ray. Yuck!
She hated it!

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Thu, 09-13-2007 - 11:54am
what about:
Raya...very close to Rayna but maybe your husband would agree with it more. I do think both parents have to like the chosen name but I am also a believer in the laboring/birthing mom getting the final say too....good luck! maybe:
Raya Maelie
Raya Marin
Raya Violet(i know not an "m")
Raya Madeline
Raya Marisol
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Thu, 09-13-2007 - 12:08pm
I like the suggestion that someone made to you about Raya....I think that if you say it and then hubby agrees you can do the bait and switch when the baby is born and have the n added if you still adore the name Rayna after you see her.