please help,I am desperate, no time left

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please help,I am desperate, no time left
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Sat, 04-01-2006 - 11:59pm
Hello Everyone,
I am desperate for help! I have a three and a half week old son that is still nameless, shame on me! I am having a crisis over name choices. Before he was born, we had a ton of girls names choices but almost no boys, since I loved the name Finn so much, I knew I would choose it. Ever since I was little I thought it sounded so heroic... and unique. My parents are both Irish and they used to tell me stories about Finn Maccuil, so it had resonance. Wel... I was blissfully unaware that Julia Roberts had named her son Phinneus and was going to shorten it to "Finn" So maybe this shouldn't affect my choice, but it does, I am terrified that it is going to become popluar. The thing is I know myself and if there's two ( or gasp, even one) Finn or Finns in his class I will be disturbed! In otherwords, I DON'T want a trendy name. Compunding the problem is the fact that I cannot find any name charts for 2005 ANYWHERE on the web! Does anyone know how I can find these up to date figures? 2004 does me no good in making a choice. If I could find out for SURE if Finn was wildly poular in 2005 I would just abandon it. Esp. when Julia only had her son in 2004...I don't know what to do, I feel sort of petty being hung up on originality but that's the way I am. Should I resort to a backup? Though its rather bizarre that it sounds alike, I love the name "Flynn" as well. Has anyone heard of lots of new little Finns being born in their neighbourhoods? Be honest with me, I can take it. I need help I seriously don't know what to do, I feel guilty not having given my little sweetheart a name, I was so sure he would be Finn .. ( after I realized he wasn't going to be a girl, which is what I thoughtafter someone I met who claoimed to be psychic predicted it!!) Help is MIGHTILY appreciated, thank you...not much time left, must register... Circe

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Registered: 12-08-2004
Sun, 04-02-2006 - 12:18am

I don't know of any recent little Finns around here, so I think you're probably safe in using it. I think the reaction to Julia Roberts's son's name was more negative than positive because of the weirdo way she spelled Phinnaeus (instead of the easier and more obvious Phineas or Finneas). Anyway, Finn is a great, strong, masculine name that I think will serve your son well in the future. I also really, really, really like Flynn. As a matter of fact, if you had asked for opinions about these names before your son was born, I would probably have said that you should use Flynn. I like both, though.

Let us know what you decide! And, what's his middle?

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Registered: 10-14-2005
Sun, 04-02-2006 - 12:19am

The 2005 numbers aren't out yet and won't be for over a month. So unfortunately, you aren't going to find any help there.


I will say that I really don't think Finn or Phinneas



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Registered: 09-23-2005
Sun, 04-02-2006 - 3:28am

Both of my kids have relatively popular names, maybe top 50, and we've met others with their names but it doesn't bother me. My kids are my kids. I LOVE their names! I would totally say that if you love the name Finn and it has so much special meaning to you that you should go with it. It's certainly not going to jump to the #1 slot on the Social Security registry. Even if there's a bump in popularity, your child is going to have a special name that has so much background for you that you will be able to explain to him as he gets older. How many Finns will be able to say that? You obviously put a lot of thought into choosing his name, so go with it.

Kara

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Registered: 09-29-2005
Sun, 04-02-2006 - 10:11am

I agree with the others. I don't think Finn is about to make a huge jump in popularity, and as someone else mentioned, most of the reaction to Julia Robert's children's names was negative (regardless of what we think of them), so I don't think a bunch of trendy parents are about to follow her lead. Incidentally, I don't personally know a single child named Finn, of any age.

I also agree that if you've loved the name this long, you'll regret not using it. If it still concerns you he have an uncommon name, you could also consider using the less-common spelling Fionn, or even a longer, perhaps less common version as the given name and shortening it to Finn.

Finan/Fionan
Finbar/Fionnbar(r)
Findlay/Findley/Finlay
Fingal/Fion(n)gall
Fingus/Finnegas
Finian/Finnian
Fianaid/Fianai(t)
Fintan/Fiontan
Demne/Deimhne (the childhood name of Fionn MacCool/Finn MacCumhail)
Griffin

HTH ;)

~Kelli


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Registered: 05-29-2003
Sun, 04-02-2006 - 10:13am
The 2005 charts aren't available until next month so I wouldn't wait on that. Finn may be more popular than it once was, but I can almost promise you it isn't anywhere near the top of the popularity charts. Name the boy Finn! It is meaningful for you, a darling name and I doubt you ever come in contact with another Finn. Well, maybe one, but it certainly won't be the next Jacob!
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Sun, 04-02-2006 - 12:40pm
Hi there, & congrats on your sweet baby boy! I too have loved the name Finn (well, actually Phineas was one of my #1 picks for our ds 18 years ago) for years. I was pretty upset to find out that Julia Roberts had to use it too, & not even spell it correctly. Anyway, I totally understand your concern. As the above poster stated, unfortunatly the 2005 charts will not be out until next month. Quite honestly, I don't think Finn is going to make that much of a jump. Even though Julia Roberts used it, I don't think that most parents are, shall we say, 'brave' enough to use such a cool & uncommon name. What do you think of Finlay? As far as 2004 goes, that wasn't even in the top 1000. Finn was somewhere around 500 or 600, I believe. I also think that Flynn is a nice back-up, as well as maybe Flint. I really do feel for you, & don't think that you're being too petty at all! Best of luck w/your descision. :)
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Registered: 09-28-2005
Sun, 04-02-2006 - 1:23pm

Just use the name Finn already! I understand your concern about the name becoming popular, but I just don't see it. Yes, I agree with others that it may rise a little, but not to the extent where you will hear it everyday. I just had my third boy 2 weeks ago and now all 3 of them have a name in the top 50 and it is fine. I even swore I would never ever use Joshua no matter how much I LOVED it because it has been in the top 10 for years. But my newborn just was a Joshua to me, so that is what name we chose.

I think the name Finn is great and so do you, so just use it! You obviously are in love with the name and will always wish that you had used it if you don't.

Oh, and I have not seen any little boys named Finn in our local paper and do not know of any in my area!!

Theresa

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Registered: 03-26-2006
Sun, 04-02-2006 - 9:03pm
Thank you so much for your input, everyone....
I will keep reading eagerly... I will register him tomorrow, so your advice was so wonnnderrrfulll... I suppose that in the first two weeks I was so indecisive partially because having a baby was so new, I felt like I couldn't really think straight... its funny bacause, considering Flynn I came to like it a lot too, but my husband said he thought it sounded like a last name. I asked my brother what he thought about the name- as a grown up man- I wanted a man's opinion, but also an objective one, and he loved them both. He thought that Finn was a person ' he'd be proud to be friends with' and that Flynn was someone that was ' a great person to be around, a swashbuckling type of guy' which made me laugh... I love descrptive types. Thank you all so much for your reassurance. Finn has overtaken the back-seaters of Arlo and Shae, which I liked as well. I do still really like Flynn too, but he may well be Finn to my husband now.... he will be finn freeman preston or finn friday preston or finn arlen preston, they all sound good with Flynn too Still, all of your help has been very valuable, words of wisdom, pick what you like, plus it makes me feel less paranoid that there are few Finns around still.... I suppose I could make adeal with my husband, he is Finn til the charts are out and if the name jumps the ranks and becomes wildly poular, I'm re-christeniing him Flynn, which sounds awfully lyrical to me too. Simple names that are common move into a more classic place that defies trendiness, ie. names like Jack, noble- sort of timeless names. I considered Finlay, but plain'ol Finn was the one that I gravitated toward. Still the initial fear is that people would be like- 'oh, Finn, like Julia Robert's son?' oh, apocalypse... eeeeekks... thank you all! Circe
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Registered: 04-02-2006
Sun, 04-02-2006 - 9:23pm

Dear circe101,

I DEFINITELY think you should go with Finn. It's wonderful. I do think Julia's baby will have an effect on the name, but also keep in mind that his full name is Phinnaeus! I found on the Social Security website that Finn is increasing in popularity. In 2000 it was ranked 831. In 2004 it was ranked 571. I don't predict that it will be the next Jacob. Please use it! It's a delightful name. Just out of curiosity, what will you use for the middle name?

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Registered: 02-26-2006
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 1:42am
I really like both Finn and Flynn. I agree with the other posts that it probably won't become too popular. I think it's great that you want your son to have a unique name and not be one of 5 kids in his class with the same name. Overused names aren't my style either. I think you should definately use one of these names or you will regret it. Although, I did read on another post that the model Christy Turlington just named her son Finn. Not sure if that would help you decide between the two or if I should have kept it to myself. Good luck! Both are great choices.


Edited 4/3/2006 1:53 am ET by my2girls2006

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