Pressure on Middle Names

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Pressure on Middle Names
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Sat, 03-18-2006 - 12:02pm

Both sets of parents are strongly hinting that they would like their grandchild named after them. Problem is that I don't particularly like any of their names. Do you think I could get away with combining the names of the grandmothers for a girl and the grandfathers for a boy, or would all four of them feel ripped off? Has anyone ever done this?

The dads are Wayne and Edi, and I was thinking "Edwin" as a middle name for a boy.
The moms are Ivana and Diane and I was thinking "Viviane" as a middle name for a girl.

I just can't picture using any of these names in their original form. It's either combining them or using my mom's middle name (Christine) for a girl and naming it after my brother for a boy (Jamie).

WDYT?

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Sat, 03-18-2006 - 12:06pm

Wow ... I think those combos would work great as mns! Lucky you they work out that way! ;) Good job, IMO, and I think it would please everyone.

~Kelli


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Sat, 03-18-2006 - 12:33pm
I think the combination idea is a great one, and they turn out to be nice names too. I do think, however, that if you don't want to name the child after the grandparents, then don't feel pressured to do so.

                             
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Sat, 03-18-2006 - 1:04pm
I usually don't like the "naming a child for someone but not using their real name" thing but in your case, where you've got 4 people vying for the honor, I think your solution is a good one.
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Sat, 03-18-2006 - 1:19pm

I like the combo names that you've come up with (ingenious names really, considering what you were working with), and I've known people to do this in the past.

~Amy & Kenna
 
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Sat, 03-18-2006 - 1:53pm
I think you should name them whatever you want. If you WANT to incorporate the grandparents names, I think this is a fabulous idea. And the names themselves are very nice (I especially love Viviane). I think this is a great idea, but I don't think you should feel pressured to name your child after them if you have something else in mind.



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Sat, 03-18-2006 - 2:07pm
Gosh, what a great idea (and great name combos!) to avoid any hurt feelings. If you really stress that you are combining them to honor them, only someone very selfish would feel slighted. Great job!
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Sun, 03-19-2006 - 5:22am

unless you LOVE those names, I'd stay clear of family names. cant please them all ya know? name your child what you want, they had their turn. Family names are nice but not when you are pressured into it., JMHO. espcially if you arent in love with the names.

edited to say: however, the way that you have combined the names is very nice. You came up with combos that work well.




Edited 3/19/2006 6:24 am ET by aaotrl
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Sun, 03-19-2006 - 2:25pm
I agree. I wouldn't go with names that I don't love especially if the grandparents still won't be totally satisfied. The grandparents had a chance to name babies - their own. This is the expectant parents' turn to choose names

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Mon, 03-20-2006 - 1:29am
I think its great that the names you came up with are nice real names not made up names. If you like them a lot use them but if you want something different do it and don't use any of the grandparents names. My mil also hinted about using her name but there was no way in the world I would ever do it. I didn't even use my own mothers name so why would I use my mil.
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Mon, 03-20-2006 - 1:29pm
i personally think edwin and viviane sound like great middle names and its a tribute to all the grandparents. if they feel ripped off, then they need to get over it-i dont mean to be rude-but youre combining the names, give them each a tribute and giving your baby his/her own name. sounds like a great idea-
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