problem. what's your opinion?

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problem. what's your opinion?
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Thu, 12-02-2004 - 1:47pm
Is it okay to give one child a family mn and not the other? what are your opinions?
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Registered: 04-08-2004
Thu, 12-02-2004 - 2:54pm

Well, I think middle names should have meaning, so my first reaction is that all the siblings should have family middle names. But, if not a family name, I would at least opt for something with special meaning to you (maybe a literary name of a favorite character, a place name where you and DH met, etc). I dislike "filler" middle names, that are used just because they sound good with the first name.


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Registered: 08-03-2004
Thu, 12-02-2004 - 3:16pm

i think so...but then again, the other kid might feel left out in the future. i think if you can you should find some "special" connection for the 2nd kids name.

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Registered: 04-12-2003
Thu, 12-02-2004 - 7:34pm
I agree that if one child has the family name then the other child should have a name with a special connection. I have a niece that is sad she has a different last name as all the other family members and she has felt really left out and wants to addthe family name to hers. She has always felt out of the loop. She is 16 now and has felt this way for a long time. An extreme example but no body want to feel left out or that they are not special too.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 12-03-2004 - 12:00am

Well, I guess I think it's ok since we did it;-) My oldest has his father's name as a middle name because it had been a long standing tradition in his family to do so with the first born son. Our second son and daughter both just have names that we really like for different reasons and there is no family connection for the name we've chosen for our expected baby either.

Personally, we made a point of *not* using any family names otherwise because we risked offending certain people. I wish that wouldn't have been the case, but we knew it would be and so decided just not to "go there" at all.

My younger son has asked why he doesn't have his daddy's or someone else's name like his brother and we just told him we thought his name was special and perfect just for him. He's only 4, but that seemed to satisfy him. I certainly don't see that it will be a big deal especially as he'll have 2 other siblings in the same boat. Maybe the oldest will be upset someday that he didn't get his "own" name LOL!

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Registered: 05-09-2004
Fri, 12-03-2004 - 9:08am
Our eldest is named after his dad, and our youngest isn't named after anyone. We're going to have two more, and both will have family MNs.


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Registered: 08-28-2004
Fri, 12-03-2004 - 2:51pm

Well, in my family growing up, *I* was the only one (out of 3) without a family mn.


 


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Registered: 07-15-2004
Fri, 12-03-2004 - 3:25pm

My ex-husband named my oldest son, and he is the only one not to have a family middle name. He's 13, and it's never come up in conversation with him or his brothers. Our baby in May will have a family middle name too ...

At least for my sons, it hasn't been an issue yet.

Kira