Is this really an ugly name?

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Registered: 01-16-2005
Is this really an ugly name?
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Sun, 01-16-2005 - 10:54pm
I am having the most trouble with finding a baby name for a girl.My husband and I really like the name Natalia.The thing is my whole family hates it. They say she will hate it for the rest of her life, and I need to choose something else; my family is very controlive in my choices, and it seems like they are never happy with MY choices in life. My mom says to name her Jasmine, but my husband does not like it as much as Natalia. My husband says to forget about what they say, but he is not the one that has to hear the bit**ing from my family.Any advices?????

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Registered: 10-12-2004
Sun, 01-16-2005 - 11:12pm
First of all, I think the name is pretty. Second of all - I wouldn't tell anyone b/c of their opinions (just like mine, even if they like it). I'd suggest telling your friends and family you haven't decided and surprise them at birth. Your mom had you and that was her chance to name a baby - this one's all yours :)

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Registered: 01-16-2005
Sun, 01-16-2005 - 11:20pm
Thank you, and you are right. I just don't want to hear their sh*t talk shortly after birth... or even after. But people say that the name will grow on them, and after they won't think it's that bad. I guess I'll have to surprise them. You know, my grandfather went as far as giving me a list for girl names! Crazy stuff!!
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Registered: 07-08-2004
Mon, 01-17-2005 - 8:42am

Heres a couple of suggestions if they keep bugging you. Just make a list up of 5 or so names that you like including Natalia (which by the way I think is pretty)and just give that to them. That away they have names in which they can look over and feel like they have a hand in choosing the name, but only you and your husband (which you guys are really the only two who have to like the baby's name) will know the name you're going to choose.
Another suggestion is to pick a middle name that she can also go by incase your family is right (Natalia is a very pretty name but might be hard for a pre-school friend to say) she'll have another name she could go by until she realizes what a pretty and unique name she has. Just don't let your family push you into changing your minds just because they don't like the name now.
I'd also advise to go into the birthing room with two names picked out. She may come out looking like a Natalie and not a Natalia. I know when we had our two boys we went in with a list of four names, two boys and two girls, that away we would be prepared incase the ultrasound was wrong (which happened to a friend of ours, they were expecting a girl and had a boy instead) or one name might fit her better than the other. This away you're prepared for anything.

I hope this all helped.
Carrie

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Registered: 04-18-2003
Mon, 01-17-2005 - 9:19am
Natalia is a beautiful name, and I have no idea why your family doesn't like it.
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Registered: 12-06-2004
Mon, 01-17-2005 - 9:22am
Firstly, I think it is a very pretty name. When I named my dd alot of my immediate family did not like it all that well. (my dd's name is Brooklyn) At the time I had never heard that name before (she's almost 6), so it was different and i loved it. Trust me it did'nt take long after she was born for everyone to forget about the name thing. They just loved her so much! And yes it did grow on everyone. It's your child, you should name her/him what you and your dh want. I too worry about what other people say and how they can be critical. But with this i just stood my ground. Good luck, Nicole

           

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Mon, 01-17-2005 - 9:28am

Oh, tell them to jump in a lake! It's a beautiful name.

I have to keep my name choices a secret until it's a done deal because my mother doesn't like ANYTHING I choose. You're not alone.

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Registered: 01-10-2005
Mon, 01-17-2005 - 9:33am

Natalia is NMS, but it is pretty and much better than Jasmine. I know a Natalia from Belarus and she is a very special woman.

Michelle

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Registered: 07-13-2004
Mon, 01-17-2005 - 10:25am

I think Natalia is a beautiful name...Tell your family to mind their own business! This is YOUR child...not theirs.

Good Luck and stick to your guns...I hate Jasmine...I don't think it matures well.

Amber

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Registered: 11-19-2004
Mon, 01-17-2005 - 11:02am
I've known too many strippers named Jasmine....no offense to anyone considering that name. I'm in the same boat as you with my mom. Luckily my brother went through it all first, so I know better what to expect and do. My mom hates my brother's daughter's name and hates how it is spelled. She complained before she was born and still complained after. He (and I) just told her "Hey, that's the way it is on the birth certificate and that's the way it is going to stay. You can b**ch all you want in private, but it's not going to change anything, and we're not going to listen to it anymore." That seemed to help. What I'm going to do is keep the real names I'm considering a secret and coming up with some names that are just out there to tell her. Example - boy named Pimpernickle, called Pimp for short. :) That way she gets the fun of complaining (which she loves to do) and whatever we really pick will seem so much better in comparison to what it could have been. lol
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Registered: 10-01-2003
Mon, 01-17-2005 - 11:15am
I absolutely love it.

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